Third pregnancy

[Crazybabies20]

So I’ve just done a test and it’s confirmed my suspicions that baby number 3 is cooking. I wouldn’t say it was planned, we had a brief discussion about having another but neither of us could decide. I had a feeling 3 days after dtd and shrugged it off for 2.5weeks!
My issue is my husband is in denial about his mental health, he works 12 hour shifts days and nights and really struggles with parenthood. He admitted he thought kids would just do as they’re told (he has clearly forgotten all of his childhood!) I’m torn between telling him straight away or waiting another 10 days when he’ll be off work and have time for it to sink in properly.
I’ve had a previous miscarriage before our second so want to hold off telling the world as long as we can and I know he won’t be able to hide his disappointment / excitement / stress!
I’m only 4 weeks so very early days and can’t picture another child keeping us up all night 😬

You wouldn’t say it was planned? Well how did you end up pregnant and having a “feeling” 3 days later? If you had unprotected sex when you knew you were ovulating I’d say that’s pretty much trying or at the very least accepting you might end up pregnant and are fine with the risk? Seems odd you’d try for a baby when your husband is struggling with 2 children and mental health. Unless you sabotaged contraception surely he would know you had unprotected sex and know that you could be pregnant so it won’t come as such a surprise?

Prob failed contraception, tho if certain one of you get done

Maybe I should have added that it was the only time we actually had sex that month. And after trying for 18months for our second I wasn’t expecting it at all. I started having cramps after 3 days which must have been implantation and had cramps on and off ever since. Our youngest is 2 and for the last 2 years our method of contraceptive hasn’t been a problem.
He has always joked he’d leave if we had another one which I know in reality he is unlikely to follow through on and he is a good dad.
I was posting more to get it off my chest and maybe someone else has been in a similar situation.

Ok so your contraception failed, in that case that’s different, sorry if I sounded mean. Some people are sometimes a bit dim on here and are shocked at getting pregnant having had unprotected sex!

I know how it all works and of course there’s always that risk, but after it taking so long last time I didn’t expect this at all, especially after one time.
I just figured I’d post on here where no one knows me and just get it out there, see what comes back.