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TTC Straight after MC??

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NatNoo96 · 14/11/2020 16:40

I’ve never posted on anything like this but have found reading a lot of the threads on here really comforting over the last week or so. I had a miscarriage about a week and a half ago at just 5 weeks. I have the overwhelming urge to ttc straight away but am also terrified of it happening again. We had only been ttc for a month and I got pregnant basically straight away. I’m worried it won’t happen so quickly again and that something will go wrong again. I feel like I want to ttc but can’t stop thinking of the worst happening again. Anyone been in a similar situation? Could really do with some advice/ successful pregnancies after a similar situation.

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Thirdlifecrisis · 14/11/2020 17:03

I got pregnant straight away after a miscarriage at 11ish weeks, no issues with the second pregnancy. I read at the time your chances of a successful pregnancy are higher within 6 months of a miscarriage so go for it if you feel ready.

SpectralPlot · 14/11/2020 17:10

Same as PP. Conceived in first full cycle after a miscarriage at 10wks and the following D&C. It was a healthy pregnancy. I was probably a bit more anxious throughout but that's normal.

Try not to stress (easier said than done I know) and good luck OP.

Lottie917 · 14/11/2020 17:21

I had the same as above PPs. I miscarried at 6/7weeks, conceived for a second time around 3 months later, had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks and then conceived a third time 2 months after that. Currently 31+4 weeks and no complications so far.

If you feel ready to try again and you've had no complications, there's no reason why not. I waited for my first natural period after both mcs but this was just a personal choice. I did feel very anxious in the first half of my current pregnancy but I knew I would, it has got easier since though. Good luck x

DinosaurGrrrrr · 14/11/2020 17:44

I miscarried at 7 weeks in May, got pregnant again at the end of May and I’m now 26 weeks pregnant. I do have 2 healthy children too so I knew it was just bad luck or potentially my age (I was nearly 37). I get pregnant very easily though, so I’m lucky that I wasn’t worried it wouldn’t happen again, I can see why that might be a worry. I was a bit more paranoid up to 12 weeks than I had been before but it was fine, I actually paid for a private scan at 8 weeks to check it was still alive in there, I never bothered with my other children.

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NatNoo96 · 14/11/2020 17:46

That certainly gives me hope and a lot more positivity thank you all! I didn’t realise how quickly I would want to try again but I’m really hoping everything will work out this time ! I’ve found this site really helpful as no one talks about these situations in day to day life! I find it so strange as it is apparently so common!

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Daffodil21 · 14/11/2020 18:07

I tried straight away after my first mc, and got pregnant again on the first cycle without a period in between. For me, it ended the same way as the first one did, but I have had three now so is likely there is something else wrong.

It then took 10 months to conceive again, and we lost that one last week. We're going to start trying again straight away this time too, even though we know it would likely end the same way if we conceived straight away. If you feel ready to then do it. You're supposed to wait 2 weeks before having sex to help prevent infection, and you should also take a pregnancy test at this point too. If it's positive you should call your EPU, but if it's negative you can start TTC again. Good luck, and don't let my story put you off, just be prepared that all pregnancies can go either way (but of course you know this already)

Sansa87 · 15/11/2020 18:37

I had surgical management for a mmc on 27th July this year. Got a bfn on 5th august then a bfp on 28th August.

Currently 15+2 and haven’t had an af since May!

In hindsight I think mentally I should’ve waited. I’m obviously beyond happy, but the stress and anxiety have been horrific. I just kept thinking it was going to happen again. Even now I question if my body is tricking me again and actually I’ve lost it, but not aware of it like last time.

If you feel mentally ready, & it’s not just out of desperation, plus you’ve had your bfn, then go for it.

Hoppinggreen · 15/11/2020 18:45

I am sorry for your loss
I had a mmc at 12 weeks and got pg 1 week later, had no idea it was possible. My period hadn’t returned so I was basically pg for a year.
Physically there were no issues but I found it very very hard psychologically

MisiSam · 15/11/2020 18:48

I had an early miscarriage in May this year and got pregnant in July so very soon after. Good luck Smile

Meomeomeo · 15/11/2020 19:46

I had a mc in April then again in May. Took 3 months for my body to be back normal and I’m currently 14 weeks.

Hanbanxx · 07/12/2020 19:33

@Hoppinggreen that is so reassuring, thank you for sharing your story. Were you actively TTC when you fell pregnant a week later? We had a MC on Sunday 29th November 2020 and are already trying again x

Hoppinggreen · 07/12/2020 19:37

Not at all, it didnt occur to me it was even possible. We only DTD once as well!!!
Best of luck x

Hanbanxx · 07/12/2020 21:00

@Hoppinggreen thanks so much! I'm guessing you didn't know if you ovulated or not? This story has given me hope, love it!

Cafeaulait27 · 07/12/2020 21:04

I had a mc at 9 weeks 2 months ago, it was my first pregnancy. It was utterly devastating but once I’d recovered we decided to try again.

I’m now pregnant again! It’s extremely early days (like 3 weeks) as I noticed I felt weird and have had some implantation bleeding 7 days before my period is due. It was a really faint line but it’s very early so I will test again on Thursday/Friday. I’m just super happy I got pregnant again so fast! The first time it took 6 months, so I really think the mc did increase my fertility as I also have pcos.

Hanbanxx · 07/12/2020 21:07

@Cafeaulait27 that's amazing, congratulations! How long after did you try again? And did you track ovulation? Xx

Cafeaulait27 · 07/12/2020 21:14

@Hanbanxx so sorry for your loss. Hope you conceive quickly next time and that it all goes well. I was a mess after the mc and thought I’d never be ok again, but once the bleeding stopped and we buried the baby (very small foetus in its sac) sorry if TMI - I felt ready to try again. I think I stopped bleeding about 2 weeks after I passed it. First cycle nothing happened, and I had a longer and heavier period than normal. But then this month it happened. I did buy some opks but I got sick of peeing on sticks, so I just used my glow app. We do it every day for about a week around when the app says I should be ovulating, and then every other day ish after that. We really try to cover all based!

@Sansa87 I remember you from the May due date thread! Glad to hear your pregnancy is still going well xxx

Lovethatjourneyforme · 07/12/2020 22:11

I had a MC in July at 11 weeks and conceived again about 9 weeks later. I waited for my first period, which took 7 weeks, just because I had no idea where I was in my cycle until then. I had the same debate, whether to wait or not, but was worried it would take a long time (first og took 6 months) and also felt like it was kinda part of the healing process? Being pregnant again helped me get over the mc. Now 14 weeks and no issues so far Smile also to echo a PP, you're supposedly more fertile in the few months after a MC.

Either way, I think it's whatever you feel most comfortable with xx

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