How do i stop worrying about having a misscarrige?

[Luckylola12]

Hello lovely mums to be!
Do i am 5 weeks today (or 6 according to my app) this is my first pregnancy after ttc for 2 years.
Ive dreamt of this moment for so long and i know DH is over the moon.
But i thought i would be more excited,as soon as i found out i immediatley started googling all sorts!
I dont like bringing this up (so i am really sorry) as i know theres ladies out there that have gone through this but i am terrified of having a misscarrage. I say to myself each day, ill stop worrying, ill stop googling, but everyday its still the same! I feel like im being ungrateful and should be excited and happy but ive just got anxiety and i cant stop it.
I had really bad trapped wind week 4 which has now stopped, which is good but also in my head im thinking is thus bad its stopped? Breasts are sore but not that bad. And thats it, nothing else except a few cramps here and there.
Then i had a new worry, what if im not pregnant atall! I cant throw away my 2 tests upstairs as i look at them to reassure myself.
Im going to stop rambling now. Any advice would be amazing xx

Unfortunately no one is going to be able to say anything really that will stop you worrying. It’s natural! Early pregnancy is rubbish, you have none of the nice reassuring bits like movements and appointments and all the worry. I just basically completely ignored the pregnancy for a while, didn’t download any apps or read any forums, just accepted what will be will be and tried my best not to think about it until I was faced with my scan!

I know it’s probably not the best advice but it worked for me😊

I had a miscarriage last year, and I am now pregnant. It is so hard not to worry, I really sympathise with you. There is no right or wrong way to react to the news that you are pregnant. I am nearly 11 weeks and I'm still trying not to get my hopes up too much because I know what it's like when things go wrong. It is so hard. I'm sorry I don't have any advice, I just want to say that you are not alone in feeling this way. I hope that you will be able to relax as your pregnancy progresses.

I had two miscarriages before DS (11 months) and currently 7 months pregnant. It's impossible not to worry.

The only way I coped is to break the initial 12 weeks down. So I had a viability scan with EPU at 6.5 weeks because of extreme anxiety. Then I had booking in at 8 weeks. Then I had a private scan around 10 weeks. Then the '12 week scan'. It made it slightly easier to deal with as I was counting down weeks rather than months.

@Luckylola12 I did the same as @3rdtimelucky2019 and it helped me a lot. I've spent all of my first trimester expecting this pregnancy to end, breaking the 3-month wait down into chunks of a couple of weeks really really helped a lot

I've been doing the same as @3rdtimelucky2019 and breaking it down into weeks like first waiting until AF would have been due, then 6 weeks when the heart would have started beating, then we had a early scan at 8+5 which massively helped me, then first booking in at 9+2, f2f with midwife at 9+6 and now waiting for scan which is 2 weeks today.
The longer it's gone on the more relaxed I've felt too, I looked at a miscarriage probability chart quite often as I found it helpful to see how the likelihood reduces the further along you get.
Sometimes it can feel like everyone's had a miscarriage bit remember you are on MN and many people come in here initially because they've had one or they're worried about one xx

Sorry, 7 weeks pregnant not 7 months so in the same boat as you again. I've got my countdown app to the first private scan when I'll learn about viability so I'm only having to think about the next 10 days. It really helps.

Even when I got past 12 weeks my anxiety never left, so I'd count down to midwife appointment, 20 week scan etc. Makes a huge difference mentally.

I had pre-natal depression and anxiety in my pregnancy, and I was incredibly anxious about miscarriage. I found a website which gives the % chance of a miscarriage depending on how many weeks + days pregnant you are and I found it hugely reassuring. It might not be helpful to you though - my anxiety is often around uncertainty, so facts and figures tend to help me. Google "miscarriage odds reassurer" if you think it would help you too!