What is it like to be a mummy to two boys?

[frolicmum]

This pregnancy was so different than my first, so I just assumed and then convinced myself I am having a girl. My NIPT has come back and I'm having another boy, I'm 14 weeks pregnant.

I was surprised, I cried for a minute but also cried when I found out about my first DS, I am not upset, I'm really not but it's funny how your mind plays tricks you.

I wanted to see if you can share your stories as to what it's like to be a mummy to two boys. Their age gap will be 2 years and 4 months 💙💙✨

Congratulations :) honestly, it depends on the boys. DS1 is a stereotypically boisterous type, while DS2 is more calm and thoughtful, likes patient methodical tasks that DS1 wouldn't do in a million years. They are all different. Just go with what they seem to like/their interests and don't believe the stereotypes.

I like buying pyjamas from the girls section for mine as the girls section is way more colourful/fluffy. They both like fluffy

I've got two boys and like the PP mine were always so different. I was thrilled to be having boys because I already had my DSD and I was glad she'd still be daddy's princess (her mum was very busy trying to make the poor girl insecure).

2.5 years between my two boys and its great. They're best buds (most of the time!) and the handing down/sharing of clothes is epic

2 years 3 months between my 2 boys and it honestly is amazing. They are best friends and have similar interests and always have eachother. I feel so blessed, they are incredibly close it melts my heart xxx

I feel like the luckiest Mum in the world. My boys are totally amazing in completely different ways.

There are 4 years between mine. They adore each other, and are best friends. They argue and fight like any siblings, but I think they make each other's lives so much more fun and interesting.

DS2 learnt to crawl because he wanted to follow his brother everywhere. DS1 has some learning difficulties, and DS2 who is half his size explains the plot of books to him.

My husband has just one brother and he loved it growing up, they're still really close. One of my friends has two boys about 2 years apart and she loves it. In the beginning she was disappointed, and that's totally fine if you are, no need to feel guilty about it. She says now she wouldn't want it any other way after seeing them together. They play together, they're boisterous together, like best friends really. I think giving these two testimonies and the comments above I would probably prefer two of the same gender (but I'm biased as I'm female and I didn't get along with my brother!).

It is lovely. Well there are moments! But there would be with any sex. Their personalities are very different, being both boys doesn't make them clones and raising each of them has been a very different experience. Ds2 sat tonight stroking my hair, being a boy doesn't mean they spend all their time doing stereotypical boy things.
Congratulations

Mine are incredibly different - the oldest is a sensitive, non-competitive introvert, the youngest is extremely confident, extrovert and very competitive. They love each other to bits, but also fight.
Being able to hand everything down is amazing. Boy’s fashion doesn’t really change (there are 4years between mine), so you will only have to buy shoes, and the occasional bit. School uniform etc, all can be handed down. Which means you have a lot more money available to do nice stuff.

Mine are so different. One sporty, loves being outside, practical and entrepreneurial. The other, sings and dances, likes to sew, a bit dippy, unorganised and not materialistic at all.

They are two years apart, have never shared interests and now they are older don't really see much of each other. Younger thinks older is the precious one. They were a similar size too, so no hand me downs.

Love them and wouldn't change them....well maybe sometimes! (We have 6 boys between us!)

Mine are 8 and 10. So far I can’t see how it’s different to if I had girls, or one of each. I guess they’d have been bought different toys?

There’s very little difference between their childhood and mine with my sister.

Agree it’s useful to reuse clothes.

I think the difference between having boys abs girls will become apparent when they’re teenagers (I don’t mean just staying the obvious re biology)

Hi -

I never had two boys but I had 3 in 2 years and 3 months (singleton and twin birth). It was great. The boys have always been close. My last two came along 1 year and 2 months later and I have always loved being the mom of boys. However, I was terrified of having a girl so I think I am biased. :) You will have a lot of fun.

Its been great and still is but then I wouldn't have known any different. They get on well too ! No complaints

I have 3 boys and it’s great. The are all such different characters. DS1 is more boisterous, likes too joke around, loud and pretty hyperactive. He has lots of friends both boy and girls but loves all things that people consider boyish likes trains, cars, dinosaurs etc. DS2 is independent, funny, likes pink, Disney films, loves Peppa Pig and chats non stop and DS3 is very gentle, easy going and quieter natured and adores music.

All 3 are very loving and cuddly. They are also very close though the older 2 do argue at times but equally are great friends.

3 years apart, best friends, thick as thieves, one introvert, one extrovert. Best thing was handing down clothes! Saved me a small fortune. They are 17 and 14 years old. I absolutely love them to bits.

They don't really like sport including football, more let's play chess together/maths challenges/science stuff. Eldest one is currently wading through Gilmore Girls with me, finds it all fascinating and funny.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Oh yes, still very cuddly despite the fact that I am the smallest person in the house. Still kiss me on the cheek and hug me goodbye in the morning etc.

My two are 16 months apart and very different in personality but generally like the same things and have done many of the same clubs and activities (although not all) The handing down of clothes and in particular, football boots has been great and while they pretend that they get on each other’s nerves, they still seek one another out, play together and are really great friends.

They’re now 12 & nearly 11. There’s been a testosterone burst recently and they’re loud. There’s a lot of physicality too - leaping on one another, wrestling etc.

I always imagined myself as the mother of a girl but now the thought terrifies me! I do worry that I’ll lose them as they get older but am trying to instil strong family values.

Best of luck to you, I’m sure you’ll be so glad that it worked out this way!