would being a mum at 39 or 40 be very mean

[gg12346]

I have diabeties, Would like to know in case being a mum at this age would be mean .I would not be there for the kid for late stages .I have already a kid who shall be 7

I’m going to be a mum at 39. I don’t think I’m being “mean”

I hate posts like this.

Huh? I'm nearly 39 and will be by the time this baby arrives. How am I being mean?

How would it be mean?

Why would it be mean? I think that's a very strange thing to say....Lots of women have children later these days and it's no big deal, I think it's becoming more of the norm if anything!

I don’t get it? Does your diabetes mean something to do with your age?

Hi, my mum had me at 37 and my sister at 39, we had a fantastic childhood and a great relationship. She always jokes she can't believe we made it through her menopause! Mums always been hands on with all the grandchildren but does admit she feels guilty she can't be as hands on as she'd like because of her health, she's now 72.
However, there's nothing to say anyone is going to have bad health, it's unpredictable.

No, becoming a Mom at 39 or 40 isn't "mean".
Yes you're less likely to see their 60th birthday but there's no reason you won't see them into adulthood, marriage etc.

If you don't want to be an older parent then that's ok too bit no op, all of those who had to do it late for whatever reason aren't awful selfish people

I’ll be 39 when this sprog arrives and I know I’ll be a million times better a mother than I would have been at 29 (know this does not apply to anyone but it certainly applies to me. Would def have been mean to a child to land me as a 29 year old mother!)

If you are a type 2 diabetic then this is reversible on a low carb/Keto diet.

Well , this thread is about me not relating or commenting on mums who are late mothers .Being diabetic I think I would not be able to live longer and so I think I the way I have put it .Nothing else

@Bouncycastle12

I’ll be 39 when this sprog arrives and I know I’ll be a million times better a mother than I would have been at 29 (know this does not apply to anyone but it certainly applies to me. Would def have been mean to a child to land me as a 29 year old mother!)

I feel the same.

@gg12346

Well , this thread is about me not relating or commenting on mums who are late mothers .Being diabetic I think I would not be able to live longer and so I think I the way I have put it .Nothing else

You should probably get the thread title changed then. It’s currently quite inflammatory and insulting.

Well I think it all depends what you think your life expectancy will be, what does their late stages mean? High school, early adulthood, their retirement?

Thank you everyone I have asked mumsnet to delete the message .dont mean to be insulting to anyone

Type 1 diabetes? I suppose it depends how well controlled you are and how well you keep? But no reason to think you’ll not live a long life, you can help that with lifestyle choices etc too but i know some T1 can be difficult to control.

Being a new mother however is your choice, my friend is the same age as me (41) her no3 son is the same age as mine (10) she’s 50 and an energetic, involved and fab mum health is good and also has 3 other kids 2 older and one younger and works whilst kids are at school I think she’s more tired recently but it’s been a stressful time.

Anyway it’s not mean odd choice of words, hopefully it’ll happen if that’s what you’re plans are