Stress / arguments during pregnancy

[EatPrayYoga]

I am 6 weeks pregnant and very anxious as we lost our first baby (stillbirth 40 weeks) and then it took a while to conceive again.

Today we've had a stressful day and we have been arguing. I could be hormonal as I feel like I have bad PMT (I get severe PMT so must be sensitive to hormonal fluctuations) and I feel angry and worked up tonight.

I worry about the effect on the pregnancy and baby.

I'm sure some arguments / stress must be normal and hormonal fluctuations must be too but any advice / reassurance would be appreciated.

I definitely need to try not to get worked up but today has been a tough day and now I'm trying to wind down and relax.

Oh my goodness what a tough time you've been through, I'm not surprised you are getting stressed and anxious. Be kind to yourself, you'll both be nervous at different times through your pregnancy- this will lead to arguments and tensions. When you feel calmer, use those moments to talk it through and reconnect to take the heat out of those more tense times.

Do you have emotional support during your pregnancy to help you think about your loss? x

I'm so sorry to hear about your first baby .

I was very stressed in pregnancy due to work. I felt like sometimes it actually made me have reduced movements later on in pregnancy. Might not have been linked though.
Of course being stressed is normal and arguments happen.

Just take it one step at a time. Hormones do fly everywhere but be sure to speak to your midwife.

Congratulations and remember to be kind to yourself.

Sorry should of added my stress in later pregnancy was due to me still working at 35 weeks. The way I worried the other reply sounded like early stress made me have reduced movements later on. I didn't mean that. Now not sure if I make sense!

Worded* jeez. I'll take myself to bed

Thanks both.

We found out our first baby had died when I went to the maternity unit with reduced movements so I think I will be very sensitive with movements this time. I was anyway but one day she just stopped moving and I suppose I would be less hesitant to go to the hospital than I might have been in my first pregnancy. I will be monitored more closely because of it, though it's not something that is understood to be likely to be happen again as it was a cord accident.

At this stage I am hoping to get through the first trimester with a healthy scan but last night I felt so stressed and upset after our argument (a bit like when I get worked up as I am hormonal) and I worried for the LO.

EattheHam I think you're saying you were stressed in pregnancy due to working up to 35 weeks and had reduced movements and later wondered if it was due to the stress?

My job is a little stressful but I feel like I can cut that down if I need to be reducing workload.