Separated from hubby 2 weeks ago took + test today

[MummyTae2]

Help
Oh gosh where do I start!
My husband told me two weeks ago he wasn’t in love with me anymore
We’ve been together almost 12 years, married for just over 5.
It was a bolt from the blue for me
He has had a problem with alchohol for maybe 6 years or so and is now a fully functioning alchoholic..
He moved out and is sorting out his own place etc
We have two children already one kay turned five the other is almost 4.

I’ve got my head round hun being gone, and the last few days even felt a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

We haven’t been trying for another and I recently had tests done to check my hormones as I had been bleeding every two weeks a little. Since we lost twins at 8weeks in April.

And we also had a miscarriage last year at about 4 weeks.

So when I took the test 2 days ago I genuinely thought I was just all over the place and late.

Now I have no idea what to do.

Please has anyone got any advice at all.

I don’t even know what I want from this post,

I suppose just to tell someone I’m pregnant and so so confused xx

You have options. If you don't feel you want another one don't have one. If you feel you would love another little one just remember you will be going it alone but it's very possible hard but worth it. Just have a think and don't get back with your ex just for ur kids it's not worth and everyone will be miserable in the end kids included. Take time now to think about what you want to do

Yeah I that’s all I need to think about just now is the kids. We had never planned any of them always said we’d be blessed with what we were blessed with and that any wee one we had was meant to be.
It’ll be tough doing it alone.
If I KNEW he could get of the drink it’d be an easy decision but sadly addiction gets a grip of people and I know that it isn’t as easy as telling him to get off it because I’m expecting.
I can’t fault him as a father though when it comes to love that’s one thing for sure.
Ohhhh what I didn’t need at this time but can’t blame the wee thing on we’re old enough to know what we should and shouldn’t be doing 🙈 all of them have come at a time when we need some hope.
The first too positive tests were just a week or two after each of our fathers died...
never pick an easy time!!
Xx

Breathe OP, it's early days. Take time to think about what you truly want, don't feel you have to tell anyone until you're ready either way and definitely don't get back together with your ex just for the sake of it. It sounds like he's en ex for a very good reason... Take care of yourself and post here as much as you need, it might help you get your thoughts in order.
The knowledgeable folks will be along in a minute, I just didn't want to read and run xxx

Ha ha thank you! Yeah I think I’m almost venting I do apologies 🙈🙈
I think I’ll wait a wee or so anyways as like I said I have lost two pregnancies before now and anything could happen so no point in stressing to much yet.
I don’t think mentally I could go with any other option than to continue to be honest deep down but again I’ll defo need to think on it.

Thank you for hopping on to keep me sane for now!

No appologies needed! One of the good things about social media is that people can let their thoughts and worries out and other people can be there for them. Good or bad, happy or sad. We all have our moments and need to vent or have a hand hold sometimes. I had a MCC a few years ago and recently discovered I was 24 weeks pregnant just as my dad died, people were there for me too. DD is 14 weeks now, I can't imagine life without her and I'm sure my dad sent her to make our family smile again. You aren't alone, vent away

So I’ve done my maths and calculations and my periods were all over the place after Mmc in April which ended up in D&C when I should have been 15weeks as it wasn’t moving. So I think if I go from first day of last bleed I be about 6weeks?? Feeling very queezy past two mornings now too.
I just don’t know what to do!?
My husband is an excellent father just sadly his addiction has such a tight grip mon him.
Is that reason to or not to keep or not keep an innocent child. I have no idea!?
I’m still no further forward in my thinking about it and still haven’t told anyone but the virtual world of mumsnet!!

Op an alcoholic parent is not an excellent one. Don't kid yourself.

I wish you all the best but please be realistic about the damage that the father of your children will be doing to them whilst he drinks.

We are separated this is the issue that I’m confused as what to do. I love my children dearly and that’s exactly why he’s not here or living in the same home as us anymore.

But didn’t expect to find my self expecting during this.

I’m trying to figure out if I’ll manage three children by myself, has anyone else done this in any kind of similar recently separated situations??

Yep I had 3 when I kicked my ex out for numerous reasons kept forgiving and forgiving thinking I couldn't do it by myself I'd struggle I'd be a bad mum youngest was 1 next 2 and then 7 but u know what me and kids where so much happier in a happy house no arguements no eggshells and we all thrived its possible and sometimes best

Thank you so much!
I mean. I do everything myself for the children already! All the bills, the food, the buying of school stuff all the Christmas presents and birthday presents and trips!! Everything. So I’m not worried in that aspect. I think I was panicking and only just dealing With him leaving to them have this to think on too. My last two pregnancies have ended in MMC so I suppose I’ll have to wait and see. I’ve been offered a scan next week so I’ll wait and see what happens with that. And just take it from there. Xxx

After 2 mmc maybe this wee one was meant to be to give u and the other kids strength and some joy going through these hard times. And yep same with my ex I did everything except had an extra man child to look after so being on my own ended up being easier lonely sometimes at night when kids went to bed but definitely better