Cramps, anxiety: can't shake the negative thoughts

[3scompany]

Hello ladies. I am between 4.5-6 weeks (tbc...irregluar bleeds). I found out a week ago that i'm pregnant. Since then I have cramped every single day (in the exact same place that I get period pains: always to one side in a specific spot). And I am convinced I'm miscarrying. I was feeling horrendously sick now I no longer am. My boobs still hurt but I have convinced myself that they hurt less than before. And I took my last ic test today and although still v positive: I've convinced myself that it's not as dark as tests before.
I know "what will be will be" but I honestly cannot shift the feeling of dread that I'm going to have MC.
How have others coped with this? Has anyone got any xpereince of the fluctuating symptoms and a good outcome? Please be kind. I know I sound insane: I don't like the way I sound at all. xx

Please try and stay calm. I am 7 weeks and have had cramps at some point most days. From what I've read and been told, this is very common due to ligaments stretching and, unless theres bleeding, theres unlikely to be an issue. If you're still concerned, I'd suggest speaking to your GP for their thoughts. On the pregnany test point, as you are a good few weeks into your pregnancy, I think the saturation of the line has less significance and a lighter line is more likely due to your urine being more diluted.

I know it's an anxious time but try and stay calm and think positive.

Hey OP. It sounds like it could be your ovary you’re feeling if the cramping is always the same spot to one side. I had stabbing pains in my left ovary area for the first 10 weeks of my pregnancy, was not nice at all and very anxiety inducing. When I went for my 12 week scan I was told that was the side I had ovulated from to conceive, and there are cysts on that ovary that secrete hormones which encourage implantation. Some cramping is also typical as the egg implants more fully and things kick off. Sounds like this could be what you’re experiencing from your description? My boobs also only hurt for maybe a week? Had stopped by the time my period would have stopped. I had zero sickness and just felt a bit hungover and tired for a couple of weeks, by week 8 I felt totally normal. Nothing like the couple of months of puking I’d expected. Lots of women have minimal symptoms and totally healthy pregnancies, the massive 39 week belly I’m looking at now will attest to that!

I completely get the anxiety, I’ve had a previous early miscarriage, but if you’re not bleeding and the cramping is localised I’d try not to worry if you can x

Thank you ladies. I guess I'm more anxious because I've not had this in previous pregnancies (in that I've not cramped all day every day for days and I've suffered horrendously with HG). It's mad isn't it....wishing for the sh*t symptoms!

Thank you @BuffaloCauliflower your sharing of your experience is really comforting. And last pregnancy (year ago: ended in mc) I had the one sided pain and it was the follicle "leaking" which apparently is normal.

I know in my heart of hearts I need to settle down. And I snapped when my husband (with the nicest of interests) said "we just need to wait and see babe" I just snipped back "that doesn't exactly help!" I'm so horrid 😔 poor Dh.

Thank you again ladies. And huge amounts of love and luck for a wonderful labour and birth @BuffaloCauliflower 🥰

@3scompany thanks 🙂 I’ve completely been there with the anxiety, I get it! Mine didn’t calm down until I heard the heartbeat at my 16 week appointment - and this was after TWO perfectly fine scans 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s stressful this baby making business and the men don’t get it no matter how lovely and reassuring they want to be, it’s not their body it’s happening in. Especially when you’ve had a loss and know that positive test does not just equal baby. Ultimately what will be will be, so we just have to focus on deep breathing and being as positive as we can muster.