miscarriage at 11 weeks

[veryworried20]

posted here yesterday saying i had bleeding. It’s now much worse and i’m the worse pain i’ve ever experienced and have no idea what to do. i phoned the early pregnancy unit this morning and they said they can’t give me an appointment till thursday - they sounded optimistic but i know it’s a miscarriage. the pain is coming and going in waves but it’s getting to the point where it’s unbearable.

i’m only 18 and live alone with my dad who doesn’t know about the pregnancy and i have no way of getting to A&E at this time of night

is anyone up?

Sending hugs.

I miscarried at 10 wks and it was very very painful. I only got through it because I had codeine which EPU had prescribed earlier that day. Do you have any strong pain killers in the house? You can take 1g of paracetamol plus 400mg of ibuprofen (you’re not supposed to take this when pregnant but if you are definitely miscarrying it won’t do any harm) but what you really need is 60mg of codeine. My pain got worse and worse almost like labour pains until I passed a huge clot (sorry TMI) then it was more manageable. You could try a hot bath for pain relief.

If you really can’t cope with the pain I think you need your dad to take you to A&E for pain relief or absolute last resort call an ambulance.

So sorry you are going through all this on your own x

Hey OP,

Sounds like you are having a bit of a touch time. I agree with the poster above, if they pain relief doesn’t work you may need to wake dad and explain.
I’m certain he will just want to make sure you are okay. Don’t hide it in case it does worse in the long run.

Wishing you well.

I’m so sorry to hear this OP. Are you bleeding heavily? I miscarried around the same time a long time ago. I also lived with my parents at the time, and I was up the whole night soaking through pads every 20 minutes. I did end up having to go to A&E in the morning, and really wish I’d gone earlier as by that point I’d lost so much blood that I was passing out and almost needed a transfusion. I’m not saying this to scare you, just that if you feel like you need medical attention then it’s really important that you get it. If that means waking your dad up, then I’m sure he wouldn’t mind. Sending lots of love.

the bleeding is more like a heavy period atm, so not really worried about loosing too much blood. it’s just the pain that’s the problem, i took paracetamol around an hour ago as that’s all we have but it’s not done anything.

the pain goes for a few seconds then slowly increases till it’s gets to it’s worse, then stays like that for a few minutes and then repeats . i also can’t lie down as it makes the pain even worse

I miscarried at 10 weeks and the pain was shocking, also bled a lot. Once I reached the point that I couldn't move because of the pain I went to A&E but just as we arrived at the hospital it ended and the pain stopped.
I'm sorry you are going through this alone. X

on my way to A&E now, ended up just getting an uber on my own. thank you for the well wishes

Good luck xxx

Hope you’re OK x x

@veryworried20 please talk to someone about what's happened, you have been very insightful to post here, organise yourself medical care, but this miscarriage is painful both physically and will, I expect, be painful mentally. I am so sorry for your pain and loss and make sure you have rl support, talk on here and be kind to you

Hope you are as ok as can be this morning OP. I miscarried at 12+ weeks and it was painful, but not for very long. Hope the worst is over for you soon and that you have friends or others that can support you 💐 x

tmi but they did an exam but couldn’t see the cervix because of the blood, so going to be having a scan on wednesday. other than that they’ve given me painkillers and said there’s a strong possibility that it was a miscarriage but won’t know for sure until the scan

So sorry for you x hope you get to look after yourself xx

possible trigger warning:
just got home and passed a massive ‘clot’ which i’m pretty sure was the baby as it was mostly pink and the right size , no more pain though so i guess that’s good.

Hope you feel better OP. Glad you are in no more pain.

Take it easy 💕

So sorry OP, hope you're feeling okay and that you have some irl support

So sorry OP. I had a miscarriage at home at 12 weeks. Just be prepared the clot could just be the start of it - I would say I had about 6 hours of passing huge clots - the worst being running to the loo every 15 mins or so during the space of an hour when it was at its worst. After that it settled down loads.
Take Painkillers with co codamol if you can get them x

Oh op I am so so sorry, try to rest and I'm thinking of you :(

How are you @veryworried20?

@Mishmased

How are you *@veryworried20*?

Thanks for asking, i’m okay at the moment, pain has come back but i’m taking co-codamol so pain is manageable, still bleeding but it’s not as heavy. Mentally i’m doing a lot better than i expected and actually feel okay, but not sure if that’s just due to the suddenness of it all.

I had a miscarriage last year at nearly 12 weeks. Im so sorry op its awful truly awful. If you start to bleed really heavily please dont hesitate to call an ambulance if needed as thats what happened to me i had to call one and spent 2 days in hospital but they said mine was extreme.

Have you got a hot water bottle and paracetamol? I was made to wait 4 days for an early pregnancy scan unfortunately they refused to bring mine forward as well. Sending you love.

Sorry my phone glitched and i never saw any of your updates. How are you feeling now?

@veryworried20 take it one step st a time. Eat and rest loads, do you have anyone for support? Can you tell your dad? It gets easier. I'm so sorry.xx

i forgot to post yesterday but i had the ultrasound and it was definitely a miscarriage

also the ultrasound technician was unnecessarily mean and acted as if i wasted her time and even asked me why i came in when i knew it was a miscarriage (even though i told her that the A&E staff weren’t completely sure and that they’d told me to come in). just over all was a bad experience