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misstalk · 06/11/2020 23:49

New to all of this just want advice honest opinions as feeling very low and upset .
Me and my partner had been trying for a baby past year currently been together for 4 . Found out I was pregnant and he's just gone cold shoulder taken all his stuff gone to work as far away as possible but then still wants to have the baby to then no contact for over a week the last time I heard off him was just shouting for no reason and a very quick change for my own sake I have blocked him so he can't contact me as I can't deal with being spoken to like crap . Just feels like I'm stuck with my head all over the place and not sure what to do I don't want to answer the phone as the one or twice I have he's rang off an unknown number just straight away shouty advice please no horrible comments

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LouiseTrees · 06/11/2020 23:55

Well he’ll shout at you for having blocked him yes. Send him an SMS/WhatsApp whatever and say that you weren’t answering because all the shouting is stressing you out and could he just explain calmly without shouting and you’ll answer. What do you mean by took all his stuff and went to work as far away as possible? What does he do -like a lorry driver or something? Also what is it he is shouting, that will help our advice. I know there is no reason for it but what is the content of what he is saying?

GanderousGoose · 07/11/2020 04:33

This sounds really horrible and I would feel really upset in your shoes. Has he behaved like this before?

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misstalk · 07/11/2020 08:25

@LouiseTrees

Well he’ll shout at you for having blocked him yes. Send him an SMS/WhatsApp whatever and say that you weren’t answering because all the shouting is stressing you out and could he just explain calmly without shouting and you’ll answer. What do you mean by took all his stuff and went to work as far away as possible? What does he do -like a lorry driver or something? Also what is it he is shouting, that will help our advice. I know there is no reason for it but what is the content of what he is saying?
He's been like this for a while just shouting coming home getting drunk on weekends I know we have t been right for a while and spoke about a baby when things was good last year and nothing really happened so was totally out of my mind when we was going through this rough patch. Then since I have found out I'm pregnant he has been a lot worse every time I speak to him he blames me for something or shouting over money he is very money oriented I'm so confused now with this pregnancy as have 2 children from a previous relationship my world feels as if it crashing down right in front of me .
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misstalk · 07/11/2020 08:27

@GanderousGoose

This sounds really horrible and I would feel really upset in your shoes. Has he behaved like this before?
Yes a lot of times but the last few weeks been a lot more from going to a nice person to now someone I don't even know anymore and I'm here pregnant feeling lost .
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Namechangedforthisoct2 · 07/11/2020 08:32

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I think you need to separate out your feelings; firstly how do you feel about this baby if you were to go alone? As it sounds like no matter what he can’t be relied on. Therefore if you go ahead you have to know it might be on your own.

Once that decision is made then I’d look at: what does this relationship bring to me and my children, what do we get out of it? It is worth it or would I be happier being away from this person?

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misstalk · 07/11/2020 08:41

@Namechangedforthisoct2

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I think you need to separate out your feelings; firstly how do you feel about this baby if you were to go alone? As it sounds like no matter what he can’t be relied on. Therefore if you go ahead you have to know it might be on your own.

Once that decision is made then I’d look at: what does this relationship bring to me and my children, what do we get out of it? It is worth it or would I be happier being away from this person?

He has never been reliable ever since I met him will come and go as he pleases then txt or ring a few weeks later with all the sorrys I love you and every time I fall for it . I'm so scared to do it alone as this time be with 2 other children to look after but at the same time I'm so scared if I have a termination that I will regret it I really don't know what to think .
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