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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Self preservation

4 replies

Confused38 · 06/11/2020 10:21

So 2 weeks ago I find out I am pregnant. I am currently 7+2. I have not told my gp or boss.
I had an early miscarriage in January of this year at 4+4 which was just like a heavy period.... I must say it did really effect me too badly.
I had a mmc in April 2019 and was 1 week off my 12 week scan. I had been having brown discharge for 2 weeks beforehand and kept getting told it was normal. It was my first time pregnant so knew no different. I eventually got in to have a scan like I said 1 week before my 12 week scan to be told it had stopped growing at 6 weeks.
What followed was very traumatic.

Fast forward to this ‘new pregnancy’ and I started having some brown discharge yesterday evening. Just when I wipe and I still have it this morning. No pain, still feeling nauseas a bit ( which I imagine must be a good sign). However, my mmc from the first time is very much playing on my mind. I have called the epu and they will see me Sunday morning for a scan based on my history. I am fine with this.

My reaction to this pregnancy has been the complete opposite to what I would have expected. I feel nothing and have have not done since finding out. I didn’t even do a test until I was 5+5. I didn’t tell my husband until I was 6 +4.
I have felt angry, annoyed. Not worried I may lose it but just detached.
Is any of this normal?
I haven’t prepared myself for the worst for Sunday morning because I guess in my mind I’m not pregnant.
I’m feeling very confused by all of this.

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Poppyismyfavourite · 06/11/2020 10:41

It sounds like you're just protecting yourself to be honest - not letting yourself get your hopes up? I was similar, didn't really let myself get excited and didn't buy any baby stuff until after the 20 week scan.

Ismellphantoms · 06/11/2020 11:14

It's a very sensible mindset. You will be devastated if you mc again, but being mentally prepared is a good thing and any good news is a bonus. Good luck!

Whoevenknows79 · 06/11/2020 15:16

I think it is normal. I had a mmc back in May and found out I'm pregnant again today. Hopefully all will go well this time, but I feel the same, pretty much nothing! Am trying not to even think about being pregnant when I would be due etc. Really hope things go well for you on Sunday.

ivfbeenbusy · 06/11/2020 16:40

I lost 6 pregnancies and by this pregnancy I was very detached even after seeing scans etc so I thinks it's totally normal - I set myself little milestones to reach - taking it day by day week by week really

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