I'm so worried about having a miscarriage

[Baconbuttie1988]

I'm 5 weeks and 2 days, I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks 4 days and haven't been worried about this until now and all of a sudden in the last couple of days it's been on my mind a lot. I see so many posts on here about miscarriage I didn't quite appreciate how common it is (and to anyone reading this who has gone through a baby loss I am SO sorry, I can't even imagine)

My symptoms are still there, I'm still feeling sick, tired and my boobs are sore but I just want to get to that 8-12 week mark as quick as possible but the days are dragging but I'm falling more and more in love as each hour goes by with this little dot in me and I just wish there was a way of knowing.

Does anyone else feel the same as me?

It’s only natural I suppose.
But then there’s a million things that can go wrong that if you think about will drive you mad.

Similarly everything can go right & really well.

You’ll probably need to have a word with yourself as 1) you have a very long way to go yet until the end of this & you can’t be like that all the way through and 2) there is absolutely zero..nothing..absolutely nothing that you can do to either cause or prevent miscarriage.

Like millions of women worldwide, you just have to crack on and hope for the best.

Hi, couple of thoughts for you - you will read more in hear about miscarriage then healthy pregnancies because the women going through worrying times will be posting. All the healthy normal pregnancies - you won't see it.

Also think of the statistics - I think it's one in five or four pregnancies ends in miscarriage (depending on age etc) so you are more likely to not miscarry than miscarry.

So take each week as it comes!

Hey OP, I am in the exact same boat!!
I got my positive last week, completely unexpectedly and since I’ve fallen completely in love with this little thing growing inside me. But my symptoms have gone from constant nausea and sore boobs to almost nothing and I’m constantly worried something isn’t right. I’ve made my partner go out and buy me tests just so I can reassure myself in some way that it’s still happening.

As PP have said, I think we just need to stop worrying so much and try to enjoy every single day as much as we can.

All the best xx

Hi I feel the same I had a MMC last year and in complete shock at finding out I’m pregnant again on Monday. But as previous posters have said just take it as it comes as the stress and worry just isn’t worth it. What will be will be. Good luck with your pregnancy I find great solace in groups like this where other people have experiences the same

I felt the same OP. It can be a worrying time. It helped me to remember that the odds were massively in my favour. After 12 weeks I felt a lot calmer about the whole thing.

I was very worried in early pregnancy too.

You hear about miscarriages a lot on these boards - it's not representative of how common they are in the population.

I found this chart helpful, I liked seeing the number go down every day: datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

For me, the anxiety didn't decrease after 12 weeks, because there's still a risk all the way up until the baby is viable - and even then, there are no guarantees.

I'd focus on managing the anxiety and trying not to think about it. Easier said than done, though! Once I started feeling kicks at about 18 weeks, I found the anxiety much easier to manage.

@Baconbuttie1988 how're you feeling now? I am feeling the exact same and can't help shift the worry. I work long hours in a stressful job and keep worrying it's going to make it happen.

Anxiety is making it so hard to enjoy this.

Like @sarahb083 I found the calculator reassuring. I feel much less worried now (11 weeks)

I was terrified of having a miscarriage, used the calculator for reassurance and ended up having a missed miscarriage at 10 and a bit weeks.

It's so stressful and in a way the calculator is irrelevant. Either your pregnancy will work out or it won't. It's something that's out of anyone's control, which is so hard.

I don't have any pearls of wisdom, sadly, other than to hope, keep busy, try not to obsess too much and try and accept that what will be, will be. Which is obviously much easier said than done.

@Baconbuttie1988

Sadly miscarriage is one of these things we can't control. I have however been watching a lot of Mama Doctor Jones on youtube ( www.youtube.com/channel/UCrPhcbDwqWRc-3tteE2BS6g ) and she has a really good questions and answers video on there. It might not help to stop you worrying but i did find learning about it more helped me.

Sadly, worrying is part of motherhood. When pregnant you worry about miscarriage, or something being wrong with the baby, or the birth.

And then they are born and you have the whole world to worry about. Are they eating/sleeping/meeting milestones/drinking enough/ happy/ doing ok at school/ making friends/ drinking alcohol/ doing drugs/ smoking/ being bullied/ revising . .? The list goes on and on.

Try and enjoy the moment. I know it is hard. I feel I relaxed a bit once I got to 24 weeks as my niece had been born at that gestation and survived.

Hi OP and others, I'm 5+3 today and I feel exactly the same. Every time I start feeling happy or vaguely make plans for the future I keep telling myself to stop because I'm so certain I will jinx myself. It also doesn't help that I have practically no symptoms, the only thing telling me I'm still pregnant is the almost daily cheapo test I take. Its not only the fear of miscarriage for me, but also the fear that my baby has a genetic disorder, defect or serious illness. And also complications of birth. I can't stop reading up on things like this.

I have to force the rational part of me to make myself stop stressing. Like others have said, on forums like these and generally online you are likely to read a lot more about bad experiences rather than people simply posting about a perfect journey. Talking to my husband helps a lot. Other than that just keeping hydrated, healthy, taking the right supplements is all we can do. Time is going ridiculously slowly at the moment though, hopefully the 12 week scan will be reassuring but this currently seems like ages away.