Husband selfish!

[Miss2820]

Duno if it’s just my husband or is it men in general who behave so selfish.. I’m 28 weeks pregnant got to a point where I’m in pain most nights with cramps sciatica pain etc so to know your husband is at home incase something happend or needed him for something I know he’s there.. so he decided to go out which is fine got no issues but there’s no consideration for me? Like it’s nearly 11:30 at night he left the house at 7 to meet friends etc so I text him and said not feeling to good on phone to midwife about my cramps etc he hasn’t bothered to get in touch hasn’t even thought about coming back to see if I’m okay?.. so I text his family and said is he with u? Coz I’m on the phone to the midwife but there isn’t any point in him
Being here he’s probably drunk so what use will he be to me...
I’m just literally fed up what’s the point in being pregnant and just being on your own with your 4year while she’s asleep and ur there sitting watching tv by yourself..,

I've definitely have had a few similar experiences with my husband. I think some men are just very insensitive and inconsiderate. But I think it's just the way they are, doesn't mean your husband doesn't care about you. I've felt lonely in this pregnancy a few times. It's our first baby and sometimes I feel I'm the only one worrying about the baby and wish someone would just take care of me. I would say if you want him to come home, just voice your request directly instead of expecting him to behave in a certain way.

Oops pressed post too early. I want to add that for me, it has helped a lot to express my wishes directly to my husband. Earlier in our relationship I always wished he was more caring, more attentive but with time I realised that those things do not come naturally to him, whereas I'm naturally caring, mothering and considerate. But since I started expressing my wishes, he's been much better. So perhaps just talk openly to your husband! I'm sure he cares a lot about you and the baby.

This isn’t the first time.. it’s like he doesn’t even think shit you know what I’ve been out I think I better get home.. see if I’m okay or something.. he knows exactly how I feel because this conversation has happend before about the whole drinking going out having a good time and then telling others and me about how everyone should be so careful over covid..we went for a 4d scan today and he was like I’m gnna go and see my mum said yeah that’s fine but he didn’t even go there he went out drinking instead

How often does he go out op? I don’t think it’s unreasonable him wanting to go out and visit friends for a few hours. If it’s every night then I’d be pissed off. I wouldn’t expect him to not leave the house for 9 months though, because you’ve got pregnancy cramps and don’t like watching the telly on your own

Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying he doesn’t care etc but it’s like once he’s out that’s it not concerned about me or if I’m okay.. or doesn’t think you no what I’ve been gone all evening I think I should get back

He’s got this thing oh boris is closing the pubs from Thursday I need to go out before everything shuts.. see whoever etc but he’s drinking at his brothers house.. since probably 7 this evening! The thing is I haven’t said sorry mate your not allowed out coz I’m pregnant blah blah I just think yeah you have gone out had a few drinks come
Home to your family because what happens is he stays out till late and then in the morning he doesn’t get out of bed to help with getting my daughter ready for school or won’t drop her off it’s me who does it all and pretty much the last few weeks I’ve hardly been sleeping so first thing in the morning I’m quite tired etc he was out last week few nights and then Saturday too