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Second baby after PND with first

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whatwouldidowithoutu · 02/11/2020 19:40

Evening all,

Just wanted to see if anyone else has been in a similar position. I’m currently 15 weeks pregnant with our second child. We have a three year old boy patiently waiting for his little brother or sister and are generally very excited about it! Our son will be approaching four when the baby arrives.

Unfortunately I became very unwell quite soon after my sons birth. From the get go once he was born I knew I didn’t feel right mentally. Labour and problems during his birth were a contributor, as were my ongoing difficulties with breastfeeding and a colicky newborn with reflux. We functioned on next to no sleep which resulted in me having a break down around the six week mark. Fast forward a year, lots of therapy and a weekly support group for mums in similar situations, you had me feeling so much better. My bond with our son got stronger by the day and I made a full recovery. Don’t get me wrong I still have blips, periods of anxiety and am a worrier anyway.

The decision to go for a second wasn’t overnight. It was a slow burner and I found myself increasingly broody around other kids and missing the baby days with my son. A few chats were had with my husband (very supportive) so we decided to go for it. I’m very nervous as to whether I’ll become poorly again. I worry I won’t be able to cope with two and maybe even crumble under pressure? It’s a real mixture of feelings.

Would love to know if any of you have had a 2nd/3rd child and managed to get through it relatively okay? And stay sane?!

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Crumbleweed · 02/11/2020 19:48

Yes. I had terrible antenatal anxiety and then PND with number 1. I saw the perinatal mental health team. With DC2 I made the decision to take an antidepressant during pregnancy and beyond. Was such a different experience. I was the mum out having lunch day 4 post c section. The sleepness nights didn't seem to bother me either.

Crumbleweed · 02/11/2020 19:48

Good luck xx

whatwouldidowithoutu · 02/11/2020 20:07

Thank you @Crumbleweed I really hope it goes better than the last time! Also love that you were that mum out having a great time. :)

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Mummyspider27 · 03/11/2020 04:46

With my first I suffered terribly with my emotions after. Although not actually PND I cried everyday for weeks and panicked everytime we went out, and panicked at bedtime everyday that I wouldn’t cope with little sleep. My second is now 4m and I feel totally different. Not once cried, no anxiety, don’t feel overly tired and I just feel happy and content! Took me by total surprise as I expected to struggle again. Could not feel more different xx

Queenbee95 · 03/11/2020 06:47

I had severe PND after having my 1st. I ended up overdosing quite a few times, and by the time he was 2 I was diagnosed with BPD.
I got unexpectedly pregnancy with my 2nd then, he was born just before my 1sts third birthday. Whilst pregnant I managed to get myself off anti depressants and was doing weekly counselling which helped a lot.

Since my 2nd was born I’ve had a few minor dips but the PND did not come back and I have been coping extremely well with my BPD, I have only needed medication once (at the start of this year). I am very proud of myself.

Anyway, just because you had it before it does not mean you will again!

I now have a 5 year old, 2 year old and I’m due my third in April 💖

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