Handhold Required

[Tigerlily08]

Hello all, im just after a bit of a hand hold really! I am 13+3 and tomorrow I have my dating scan. To say I'm terrified is an understatement... this is my first pregnancy and I am Type 1 Diabetic. Ive managed to convince myself that I've had a missed miscarriage and that there will be no heartbeat tomorrow. I had an early scan at the EPU at 6 weeks (because of being a high-risk pregnancy, not because of any issues) and all was fine, we even had a little heartbeat.

Im adding additional pressure as its my OHs birthday tomorrow and with him not being able to be there due to covid I am panicking even more that his birthday will end in heart break. Im normally such a calm and rational person, feeling like this is driving me crazy! Please tell me pregnancy becomes less stressful once this hurdle is out of the way?! X

How did it go OP?

I think everyone has this fear to some extent, you’re not alone. The odds are in your favour that everything is okay, so try and go in with that in mind. I’m a really anxious person too, but I keep trying to remind myself that there is always going to be the next worry on this journey, so I need to relax a bit. Once everything is okay at this scan, you’ll then be worrying about the next thing and I don’t think that will ever stop! X

If your early scan was good then chances are everything is good with scan.
I was a wreck before my 12 week scan, so I understand how you feel. Absolute pure fear that something was wrong and I too had an early scan at 7 weeks.
Hormones have a lot to answer for!!

Thank you for your reassurances! I think my OH thinks I'm crazy! I'm just trying to keep my mind off it for tonight as I won't sleep otherwise. Either way I will update after the scan tomorrow x

@Tigerlily08 I have mine tomorrow too and also terrified! I haven't had many symptoms throughout so like you have worked myself up into it being a MMC. I haven't had a private scan either so really have no clue if anything is actually happening! Mine's at 4.10pm - when is yours? Have managed to book afternoon off work, doubt I'll get much done!

@Em4815 it's at 09.30 thankfully. I've had a little nausea and some cramping but nothing major. It's horrible isn't it? I have everything crossed for you and am sending a virtual hand-hold for your scan. Let us know how you get on xx

OP that's normal.

With DD1 I went to the hospital because I couldn't feel her, like within the first few days of feeling the movements!!!! She kicked in the waiting room and I very sheepishly ran away

Congratulations on your pregnancy op.

Movements, movements is what eased my worries the most. All you can do now is take it one day at a time.

As a fellow type 1, I enjoyed the reduction of hypos in the second trimester.

Happy birthday to your dh. Can you celebrate his birthday tonight instead of tomorrow? A nice home cooked meal and some candles on? I certainly liked occupy my time when a scan was around the corner. Have you changed your utility bill recently? Can you see if you are due a renewal and save money? (I don’t do romantic stuff but I go frugal).

Thanks @Tigerlily08 - best of luck with yours too! At least you don't have too long to wait now 🙂

Thank you all, I have been cooking and now binge watching Desperate Housewives to keep my mind occupied fingers and toes crossed x

@Hellomoonstar said to look for movements. Just to let you know, especially in the beginning, they feel like gas bubbles moving in your intestines

I meant it is something to look forward too. Something that reduces stress. I know it is very hard to feel movements at 13+3 weeks. Especially for a first pregnancy. I do agree it feels like gas moving around at the same place at first.

Im home and all is absolutely fine with our little one (apart from being stubborn and not wanting to lay in a helpful position). So relieved and feel like I can breathe again.

@Em4815 not long til yours! Let me know how you get on xx

Ahh so pleased @Tigerlily08! Getting super nervous 😬 keep everything crossed for me!

@Em4815 sending all of the positive baby dust your way (not that you will need it) ❤ xx

Thanks @Tigerlily08 - all was good here too! Baby was very chilled but started moving when poked 😂 it was so bizarre given I'd worked myself up! I can now be thankful for an uneventful first 12 weeks 🙂

@Em4815 I'm so happy for you! Congratulations on your baby. Hopefully we can enjoy the rest of our pregnancies and stop worrying a bit 🙈 take care over lockdown xx