Giving birth in lockdown

[bleachblondemom]

How does everyone else feel about potentially giving birth in lockdown? I’m due 2nd Dec when lockdown ‘supposedly’ ends so is a chance I could have it by then. My biggest worry has always been about spending a big chunk of labour in hospital on my own until my OH is allowed in (which is a completely stupid bullshit rule that makes zero sense but I won’t go off on that now).
But everyone else around me is just going on and on about visitations and how it affects them. I get that it’s upsetting for grandparents to not be able to see their new grandchild for a couple of weeks or a few weeks but it’s really getting on my nerves. Yesterday we were at my in-laws (in the garden, following the rules) and my MIL just kept going on and on about how nothing was going to stop her from seeing the baby. I said, if I have it in the next 4 weeks, we cannot have visitors, in the house or the garden. That’s the rules for 4 weeks, I can’t do anything about it. But she wouldn’t listen. Just kept thinking of ways to try and get round it. Sorry but no I don’t want to come and fucking meet you in a car park when I’ve just given birth, I want to stay at home.
And then I’ve had my mom on the phone this morning crying because she might not be able to see the baby. Again, I get that it’s not ideal, but a few weeks isn’t going to make any difference in the long term. I feel like I’m having to be a bitch and keep saying there’s no point in worrying about it now as we don’t know what the situation will be when I actually have the baby, and there’s nothing we can do about it. If I’m not allowed visitors, then that’s that. It fucking sucks but I’m not stressing myself out bending the rules to make other people happy, it’s about time we all took this seriously instead of thinking we’re invincible.
A part of my secretly thinks it’d be quite nice to be left alone for a couple of weeks without constant visitors! But then I’ll just get people constantly ringing me and video calling me every damn day. I can’t win basically, and I feel like no ones listening to me.

Sorry but I think it is selfish to make comments like the ones you described in your OP. I’m due in four weeks too and nobody has said a word about visiting or any kind of pressure.

I've been feeling similar.. my 'delivery week'
Is the week after it finishes but potential to give birth sooner due to expecting twins. I live at least 3 hours from all my family and my mum was saying the other day that her and my step dad would come down and just see them through the window. Etc and I explained that even when I've had them if I have them earlier than the planned early in place, people aren't necessarily going to find out straight away, I want to make sure both me and the babies are well and healthy. I don't intend on informing anyone of any induction/section date I'm given other other than my BIL and his partner as they are going to be caring for my 20 month old. My mum doesn't even know we've asked someone else to look after our son as I'm sure she would be gutted we didn't chose her.
Either way I'm trying to not think about it and then whether they appear in or just outside lockdown I will be doing a round message when I'm ready to say they're here and healthy (providing they are) and saying given the current situation I do not wish to have any visitors at the moment but will organise when we are ready to see people and it will be on our terms, however I will be happy (also when is good and convenient for us) to have FaceTime etc with people. But other than that I need to do what is safe and in the best interest of myself my partner and all 3 of our children regardless of how 'socially distant' they have been with the world.
End of the day, your baby your decision, I'm not one to upset people but I think if I don't say something and someone comes to my home and passed something on that caused any damage to my new larger family I will be absolutely effing furious! x

I'm also due on 2nd Dec (baby number 2) my mum is going to isolate for a week before my due date so that she can come and look after my first whilst I'm in hospital so she will obviously see the baby when we get home, however, truth be told, there's no way I'm not seeing my parents. Once I'm on mat leave in 2weeks time we'll none of us be going anywhere anyway!

@bleachblondemom good luck!!! I was 41 weeks and they made me stay in the hospital for 5 days away from my young children, just waiting..... kids now cry if I leave the house, and got super clingy! DD2 won't go to tge bathroom without me there to see her sitting on the toilet

I was perfectly healthy, it was unnecessary

@grey12 that sucks, I’m sorry they did that for no good reason :( I do feel a bit more fortunate that this is all happening with my first birth and not subsequent births, so I don’t need to worry about childcare, e.g getting someone else to isolate ready for childcare duties etc. I really feel for all the women going through this right now.

I'm due twins - I'll need parents here to collect older DD from school if DH is with me so obviously they'll meet the babies and they can drive here/back in a day. PIL on the hand don't drive and would have to travel 2 hours on public transport to get here and then stay overnight - I wouldn't necessarily be comfortable with that. I'm looking forward to not having the manic house and revolving door that I did the first time round to be honest

I think the whole seeing kids through the window thing is ridiculous - you just have to risk assess your own lifestyle and that of others - most grandparents are largely retired don't mix with others anyway so unlikely to bring it into your house. If you've been shielding before birth and then usually DH, you etc barely leave the house anyway the first 2 weeks of the baby coming home then you are unlikely to pass anything to them after that point so I think it's ok then for visitors outside of a lockdown situation