Hi. I’m 8 weeks pregnant, it was a surprise pregnancy and things were very casual with baby daddy, to say the least. He was really supportive to begin with, considerate, said he would be involved 100%. I gave him the option of just doing things completely as friends if he wanted, but he said we should see how things go so we’ve still been sleeping together and spending a lot of time together trying to get to know each other.
The issue is that he’s been so distant for the past week. It feels like he’s pushing me away. I know it’s still such early days, and I think he’s having a hard time with everything at the moment. But he’s completely shut off and I feel so isolated. He doesn’t say much, I haven’t seen him in over a week and he’s constantly making up excuses to avoid me, or at least it feels that way.
I’m now starting to try and come to terms with the fact that I’m potentially going to be a single parent. I don’t think he’ll completely disappear, but I had a vision of things working out and a nice happy ending. I’m just really struggling with the whole pregnancy not being how I ever imagined it would be.
Again, I know it’s early days and I’m trying to give him the space that he needs and also be there to support him - but at the same time, this is a massive thing for me to process too, and I’m also feeling so nauseous and exhausted and hormonal on top of that. I’ve cried so much today.
I guess what I’m looking for is some input from single parents, or those who are going it alone through pregnancy etc? The funny thing is, I’m 28 and I’ve been single for 4 years so I always said if I got to 35 then I’d just go and do it alone anyway. But the surprise element has really thrown me. I hope I haven’t come across as insensitive to anyone in a similar situation, it’s such a hard thing to talk about, and I do feel so lucky that I have a supportive family and small network of friends. I know it could be worse.