Miscarrying at 9 weeks

[padsi1975]

Hi
Sorry for depressing post but hoping someone on here might have some words of advice. I'm approx 9 weeks pregnant but started bleeding last Monday. Initially very light and brown, now heavier and brown. Pain on Tuesday but no pain since then. I'm 45 so expected this would likely go wrong. My question is do you think I could just ride it out at home and skip seeing doctor/getting a scan? I find all that upsetting and depressing (I have been down this road a few times now). It's taking a bit longer to get going than I thought but I'm in no pain. Ok to just carry on and assume I am no longer pregnant, maybe do a hpt once the bleeding stops to confirm? Or am I being foolish? Thanks.

It's always worth seeking medical advice because you will need to know conclusively that you have miscarried. Have you had an early scan yet? While it does sound like a possible MC there are also a variety of reasons you might bleed in pregnancy but the pregnancy continue. If the pregnancy has grown far enough to 9 weeks then you will pass the products of pregnancy, which will be conclusive for you. But if it was a Missed miscarriage which is only now being shed -pardon my bluntness, then there won't be much to look out for as side from clots. Also you could continue bleeding for some time after the initial loss and it's always good to keep an eye on those aspects too.

I am so very sorry you are going through this. I've had 3 miscarriages with different managements. It's never easy. X

Thanks calimommy. No, no scans so far, I had early scans with previous losses and found it very hard to stay detached once I'd seen a heartbeat and desperately wanted to stay detached this time. I hear you. I probably should at least let doctor know.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

When I started bleeding I had an early scan, they couldn't give me a conclusive answer and told me to come back 2 weeks later to check if it had grown. After my scan the bleeding got worse and I miscarried at home. It was pretty obvious it had happened and I didn't have it confirmed by anyone. I was told to take a pregnancy test a couple of weeks later, and if it was positive (it wasn't) to call the EPU again. I've had 2 miscarriages and both happened at home and we're not medically confirmed by anyone, just by what had come out of me, and the negative pregnancy tests.

Of course you have to weary of 'retained products' (urgh, sorry) because that can lead to infection, but I think there are signs for this

Sorry I've just read this isn't your first one. I'm so sorry you find yourself here again and sorry for telling you things you probably already know!

Thanks for responding daffodil 21, I appreciate the kind words. I really do.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP.

Only you can decide what’s best for you. My advice would always be to seek medical advice just in case something is happening which needs treatment - but I also understand why you would find that very hard.

I think if you’re keeping a close eye on your own symptoms and wellbeing (take your temperature regularly, keep an eye on feelings of sickness etc) you would probably be safe managing things on your own.

I’m keeping everything crossed for a good outcome for you, but whatever happens I hope you’re on the mend soon

I felt the same with my second miscarriage. I got a phone appointment with my GP, told her what I thought was happening and just confirmed what I should do if things got worse. She was quite happy for me to manage it myself and only come in if the pain or bleeding was too bad, or if I was still testing positive a week later.

Thanks everyone. I think I will just manage it myself for now. I wish it would progress though, it's been a week and it's happening very slowly. I just want to put it behind me. Thanks for the kind responses.

Do I have to wait for bleeding to stop before I test to make sure it's negative?

Give it a few weeks, one loss I tested negative after a week (MMC, empty sac on scan), another took 8 weeks to test negative (loss at 11weeks with 11 week sized baby). Those were both managed at home. With my D&C I tested negative after a week even though it was 10weeks, perhaps because of the nature of a D&C. So I think it varies quite a bit. X
Good luck X Miscarriages are just shit.

Hi OP - I just wanted to say I’m sorry that you are going through this. I’ve had several losses and it’s crap. I’ve managed a couple at home without a scan. My tests have generally gone negative very quickly - often while I’m still bleeding but with my last MC (10 wks but no heartbeat seen at 8 wk scan) it took about 3 wks for it to go negative.