Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

To not want to go out

3 replies

FtmNov22 · 24/10/2020 20:43

Currently 36 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I've gone down to part time at work doing 4 hour shifts 5 days a week instead of 8 hour shifts. I start maternity leave at 38 weeks. I'm exhausted all the time, I finish work at 12 and just want to go home and rest on the sofa and have a nap.

I dread every time a friend pops up messaging me in fear they are going to ask to meet soon or do somthing soon. I'd rather just be at home doing nothing. All my friends and family keep asking to go out for 'the final time' before baby comes, to lunch, for a coffee etc. I just dont have the energy to go for all these lunches/coffees. I also cant afford to be going out for lunch twice/three times a week! I've always found it hard to say no and feel guilty when I say no or have a reason to. None of my close friends live 'local' and live 20-40 minutes away and so I feel bad asking them to come to me for a coffee at home instead of meeting half way for lunch or a coffee.

My bestfriend wants to go out for afternoon tea (managed to persuade my way out of a spa day) for her birthday a week before my due date. I said yes but I really don't want to leave the house and be half an hour away from home a week before my due date. I'm the first of my friends to have a baby so feel like she wouldn't understand. How do I cancel or do I just carry on hoping I will go into labour or we go into lockdown before this afternoon tea! I dont want to let her down as when I told her I was due just after her birthday one of the first things I remember her saying is we wount be able to go out for her birthday this year!

Did anyone else feel anxious about leaving the house and going out close to their due date? And have friends/family that don't think about it or take into consideration that I don't feel comfortable going out.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Grumpy19 · 24/10/2020 21:01

I empathize completely with you. I can just about get myself out the house to go pick my children up from school and beyond that I'd quite happily stay at home. Luckily I work from home and can take breaks to rest.
I think you need to tell your friends how you are feeling. Maybe they could come to your house and bring some nice treats rather than going out?
Good luck with the last few weeks of your pregnancy x

serialplanner · 24/10/2020 21:34

I know it feels difficult but if you are honest and explain why I'm sure good friends will understand. If you do manage to persuade them to come to you maybe get some decorations or their fave drink in or something to make it special to make up for them travelling.

Even if you are the first, I don't think it's unreasonable to say I really want to celebrate you but I'm low on energy and cash before the baby so are you up for something at home and we'll get special bits in to make it nice.

Disappointedkoala · 24/10/2020 21:35

The last week's are exhausting so don't blame you for wanting a break - I think if you really don't feel up to it then just be honest and just say you're too tired/in pain/feeling huge. With my first there were days when a short walk was just too much.

Alternatively blame the pandemic and say you've been advised to strictly social distance before your due date so can't really go out.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page