4 weeks pregnant advice needed

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Hi all,

I know there are alot of people on here who have spent years of their live trying to conceive etc so I dont want to offend anyone with my post however I'm in a situation I'm after some advice. Me and my boyfriend found out today we are 4 weeks pregnant. We have only been together 4 months and this was unplanned. At first we were thinking we absoutley cannot go ahead with this as we don't even live together yet, however as the day has gone in we are now in two minds on what to do. We feel as though we are very happy in our relationship but we are still early days. I have no doubts that he would be supportive in anyway that he can. Although we are 28 years old we're just not sure were ready. Has anyone had any same experiences and it's worked out? Or not worked out? I know everyone is different but we don't know anyone who has been through a similar thing so thought I'd reach out here. Thanks x

Haven't been in a similar situation but what I would say is having a baby is a huge step , your life completely changes over night , and if you haven't been together very long you may end up raising the baby on your own which would be super hard . However having said all of that , the fact that you are considering it makes me rhing that deep down you want to keep the baby and once the baby is here you won't regret it . Probably quite unhelpful but hopefully given you some things to think about

DC was conceived in the first six months of our relationship. It was a huge step and really difficult because we barely knew each other even though there were definitely feelings there. We weren't ready for a baby but we decided to have her together.

Our relationship hasn't been all roses and confetti since. We were younger than you when we had DC1 and it was difficult. I was prepared to be a single mother should the situation arise and it was rocky for the first few years but we've been together thirteen years and married for four and a half now with two other DC's.

Mine had a happy ending. Yours might not. Just remember to do what's right for you, not your relationship. If you're as prepared as possible to be a single mum should it all go to shit then congratulations!

It's completely your choice and obviously you are considering it but what I would say is anyone who says having a baby fixes a relationship this isn't the case having a baby is one of the biggest tests I think a relationship can have and if you think your relationship is stable enough to handle that test then you will have so much joy out of sharing your baby together but it is hard work I won't sugarcoat it. If you are also happy to be a single mom should it not work out you could go ahead with it I know some amazing single moms who do such a great job. If you feel that you're not ready and you don't have any fertility issues you might want to just think it through. Either way you have to do what's right for you

I cant give advice but can sympathise as im in a similer situation. Im also 4 weeks pregnant and its happened really early in my relationship to - the first time we slept together after only knowing each other 6 weeks. At first i was adiment i wanted to keep it and he was adiment i should have an abortion and that if i did keep it he would walk away and not be involved so i would be doing it alone. After a week if talking we are now both 50/50 and cant decide what we want to do plus we never seem to be on the same page at the same time. We arnt young (im 34 hes 36) but we hardly know each other so know how much of a struggle this would be