Premature baby

[Newbee123]

Hi ladies I had my first baby at 26 weeks and I just can't cope with the sadness. The doctors said they are not sure why he came early as we both had no complications. I'm feeling very depressed I haven't left the hospital yet I'm due to leave today. My heart is breaking knowing I'm leaving my baby and going home. I know he's in the best hands but I just can't help but feel guilty like it was me or something I'd done. I love him so much my heart is bursting. And I'm also worried about the future and what it holds for a premature baby. Has anybody had any experience with this or gone through this ? I don't know if I'm strong enough ... 😞

Aww, congratulations on the birth of your son.
I had a 33 weeker and i cried all the way home when i had to leave him in the NICU, its unnatural to leave your baby behind having just had them so your feelings are completely natural
It will get easier with every day i promise.

Stay strong mummy, you have this and these teeny babies are so much stronger than we think xxx

@Aprilbaby21 I think because my baby is sooo premmie I've just been thrown off by it 😞 how is your baby now ?

Of course you will be. Hormones are raging, your probably all over the place and you just want your baby with you.
Give yourself some credit, you can do this, you have too, your baby needs you too.

My preemie is 5 now, big and solid. You wouldnt think he was so teeny.
Im pregnant again and obviously the worry is there that i will have another.

Im sure the ward wont mind you calling in and checking all is ok with baby xx

@Aprilbaby21 that's such good news ! How far along are you ? I'm scared to hve another but I already want another one is that weird ? I just have so much love to give it feels like atm 😞

Im nearly 16 weeks.
Had a few bleeds so far so hasnt been relaxing so far.

Well, just you wait til that baby boy is home... then you can spend all your time loving him...
He is in the best hands x

So my sister had my nephew at 27+5 which was about 3 weeks after I had my term baby. He was in hospital for about 8 weeks and then was let home. I wont lie, it was very very hard on DS and Dbil. Like you they felt awful leaving him there and struggled with it not being 'the norm'. Hers was also unexplained.

I will say this, my nephew was discharged from the paediatrician at 2 and you cannot tell the difference between my son and nephew. At all. They have hit milestones at the same time, similar height and weight. You would never know one was born 3 months early.

Best of luck to you.

I also had a 33 weeker and was inconsolable the day I had to go home. It’s heart breaking. It does get easier and you find your own routine with NNU. My best advice is to talk to the other mums there, you will all have good days and bad days and having that support is amazing. Nobody “outside” really understands what it’s like.

My little one is now 15 months and he’s amazing. I’m also 33 weeks with my second who is still hanging on inside - hopefully for a few more weeks.