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Baby shower - is it safe?

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Chalalala90 · 20/10/2020 15:40

Hi all

One of my close friends is throwing a baby shower for me at the weekend, I’ll be 35 weeks. She’s holding it at her house. The people invited work in local schools, and the school has had some cases of covid with certain bubbles isolating. No one attending the shower has been in one of these bubbles - however, I’m starting to panic. I’ve had a high risk pregnancy, with lots of complications. I’ve asked my midwife about guidance around being in third trimester and Covid but she’s very vague and says there aren’t any clear ‘rules’, just social distance and wear masks, wash hands etc.

I don’t want to seem ungrateful - it’s a lovely gesture of a shower being organised. I’ve been in and out of hospital throughout my pregnancy so not had many chances to socialise. But I also am starting to panic about how safe this will be. Part of me thinks i should just ask for it to be held after baby arrives, hopefully when (if) cases start coming down again. The other part of me thinks Covid is going to be around for a long time yet and should I just be as careful as possible but enjoy it. It’s taken 3 years to get pregnant due to needing fertility treatment.

Have others been in similar situations? Any advice on what to do?

Thanks in advance xx

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wannabebump · 20/10/2020 15:44

What restrictions are in place in that area for house visits/number of people? I guess that would give you the "legal" answer.

Irrespective of restrictions, it wouldn't be me sorry. X

PinkPlantCase · 20/10/2020 15:45

I would at the very least say it has to be outside, I assume you’re still sticking by the rule of 6.

Tbh I wouldn’t be happy about the whole thing at all but I think you need to say something very soon if you don’t want it to go ahead so that you aren’t doing anything too last minute.

Maybe offer to do something 1 on 1 with your friend instead? Or say that you want a zoom bag at shower!

PinkPlantCase · 20/10/2020 15:45

*baby shower 😂 not bag at shower

cosymama2020 · 20/10/2020 15:50

My baby shower was cancelled/rescheduled to a zoom shower. Same for 3 of my other friends this year. To us it just wasn’t worth the risk to us or our babies. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable having a shower with people who are in schools at the moment either but that’s just my opinion.

Spam88 · 20/10/2020 16:15

Where are you that a party is even legal?

I wouldn't OP. I do think the risk is small but is it worth it? You likely won't even enjoy yourself if you're worrying.

rorosemary · 20/10/2020 16:16

Is it safe? I'd say no. I think that any contact with other people carries a risk at the moment. I wouldn't do it (am 33 weeks myself). It's a very nice gesture but if you do catch something, might not even be Covid, you might have the added risk of the hospital/midwife postponing the next check up till you've had a negative test. Even catching a simple non-covid cold could have consequences for your care right now.

whatsbinhappnin · 20/10/2020 16:18

How many people?
I would ask for it to be held until after baby is born

rorosemary · 20/10/2020 16:21

I'd like to add to my post why I wouldn't want to catch anything right now. I originally had my 12 week scan delayed because of hay fever (I sneezed in the street and wasn't allowed in the hospital). High risk pregnancy and explained that I had hay fever but they didn't care. Wasn't allowed to test because it could still get positive the day after the test so they didn't trust it. So that's why I would be very reluctant right now to be put in a position where I might have less care because they are scared it might be Covid.

dementedpixie · 20/10/2020 16:24

In my area we're not even allowed to mix households indoors. I wouldn't be happy doing it especially heavily pregnant

Justmuddlingalong · 20/10/2020 16:30

What are the restrictions in your area and how many are attending? Will it be outdoors and with social distancing?

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Chalalala90 · 20/10/2020 16:34

Sorry I should have specified in my post - the restrictions in my area are 6 people max mixing. So there will be 6 of us. It will be inside most likely.

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dementedpixie · 20/10/2020 17:30

I wouldn't do it and I'm not pregnant

Aprilbaby21 · 20/10/2020 18:23

I wouldnt risk it....

1990shopefulftm · 20/10/2020 18:28

I wouldn't, if you got covid now then if baby comes early your hospital might not allow you to have the birth you have in mind including having a birth partner, or even just missing a routine appointment isn't something you d want to do because you had to self isolate.

RaspberryHartleys · 20/10/2020 18:30

No, I wouldn't do it.

Could you do it virtually? It sounds strange but we did it for a friend recently. We got the presents delivered as well as Deliveroo with lunch and played games etc over Zoom. Might be an option?

Hatscats · 20/10/2020 20:37

If it’s only 6 I’d go. Only like going for a meal or seeing friends as normal for me!

peachypetite · 20/10/2020 20:39

I think you’re mad at this stage to be coming into contact with six others who work in schools, especially with a high risk pregnancy

MasksGlovesSoapScrubs · 20/10/2020 20:51

I think you need to put yourself first and your baby. If they take offence to that then so be it 🤷🏻‍♀️. I certainly wouldn't be mixing with people like that even if a pregnancy wasn't high risk.
People can be asymptomatic. It just isn't worth the risk.

UnmentionedElephantDildo · 20/10/2020 20:55

If it is to be 6, and if you do it outside (unless you are tier 1, where indoors would be permissible, but outdoors safer) then OK

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