2nd scan

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Has anyone had issues with having their partner in for the second scan? We got refused for the first but it was only a small community hosp. My second scan is arranged for the main hospital for the area and I'm panicking that my partner won't see his child before due date, and that I find the gender on my own, which I personally feel both parts are important and need to be shared as a couple!

The global situation at the momebt is putting a wet wash on a lot of things I just know it would break my heart if he couldn't be there for the last scan and gender :/

Pretty much since March most people haven't had their partner at scans. It's varying now trust to trust as to whether your partner can go.

I laboured alone until 3cm, then dh was allowed to come, good thing too as I gave birth an hour later going from 3-10cm in an hour! He had to leave 2 hours post birth and didn't see either of us until we came home several days later. My story is far from unusual for the last few months sadly

Although will be devastating if he can't attend 20 weeks scan with you - I really get that - I'd be more concerned with labour! Some hospitals that aren't allowing partners to scans are allowing video calls.

I would call the department up and ask what the situation is for them as it varies from trust to trust. If not allowing could you look into a private scan facility that would let him attend?

Hope he can go with you, and best of luck x

My DH wasn't part of anything for my whole
Pregnancy. No scans, no appointments, nothing. It was awful but rules are rules.
If you want to find out the gender together why don't you book a private scan?
We did that at 30'weeks given that DH couldn't be part of any of my appointments and it was amazing. It made my DH's day that he got to share something so special.
I had to go through a 24 hour induction on my own too!
Fingers crossed things ease up for you before hour due date 🤞

Call the midwives, hospital where the scans are?? They will have their up to date policies... they can tell you whether or not he's allowed. It varies from trust to trust/ hospital to hospital.

can you not get the sonographer to write gender down, take it to get a balloon made up and reveal together?

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and my husband is yet to come to a scan. He wasn't allowed for the NHS ones and private did not allow children so he had to stay home to watch our 3yo on both occasions. For the gender I asked for a cannon at private scan (our hospital wouldn't write gender down) and we found out together this way. It's certainly not ideal but a lot of people have had this issue in COVID.

I'm going to ring them this week as my scan is next.

I found out I was pregnant on the first day of lockdown. Due to give birth in four weeks. As far as the nhs is concerned, my husband has not been a part of this pregnancy. It’s not been great but rules are rules and it’s affected a lot of people over the past few months.

Policies are changing now. My hospital trust started allowing partners in for 12 and 20 week scans a couple of weeks ago, so it’s definitely worth checking. If not, the only way you’ll be able to find out together at a scan is privately.

I think it depends on where you live. I'm in the South East, currently 10w+2 and have been told that at the moment, OH can come to both scans but no midwife appointments. First scan is in 2 weeks and atm, OH is allowed to come

My DP could only come to 20 week scan, but depends on your trust. Why not book a private scan so he can come. Bear in mind not all nhs 20 week scans will tell you the gender anyway so you may have to go private

Think most hospitals have updated now to allow partners at 12 & 20 week scan only. I'd call to check in advance however.

Unfortunately many people will experience something similar. My husband isn't going to be a part of this pregnancy until I come home with a baby. But I am becoming increasingly high risk so understand more so why the restrictions are in place. Our waiting area at the hospital isn't big enough to socially distance with everyone's partners there too.

You could find out at the birth together or have a private scan. The 20 week scan is for anomalies, not a big gender reveal.

35 weeks and dh has been to nothing with me. Not a problem for me though. The waiting room for scans has been lovely without partners and whole families waiting about (and hogging all of the seats).