12 weeks 2nd pregnancy - really struggling

[taraRoo]

Hi everyone

I'm having my second baby. I have a 2yo. My first pregnancy was really easy but I've been floored by this one. I wasn't expecting it.

I'm shattered constantly. My nausea has improved a bit but I still have no desire to eat anything that isn't beige. I'm totally constipated. Thirsty the whole time and need to pee too. I wake up every day at 3am and half the time I can't get back to sleep. I'm hanging on by a thread.

I feel constantly guilty that I've no energy for my son or my husband. And I feel really scared about the baby and how I'm going to handle it. I'm worried I already resent it. Poor thing. I had two days of feeling normal this week but I've now gone back to feeling rough.

Just want to cry and sleep.

Did this happen to anyone else? Did it get better?

23+3 weeks and have a just turned 2 year old.

The tiredness hasn’t got any better, if anything it has got worse. I have got better with food as I have got further along though and slightly more energy to get through the day, especially if I manage to sneak a nap when DD naps. More often than not I am struggling to not fall asleep on the sofa at 8pm though 😅

DD’s nursery bubble popped so will be isolating as well as working in the evenings (since I can’t when she would normally be at nursery) as of tomorrow as DH works outside of the home. Absolutely dreading how tired i will be as a result.

Good luck!

Hi. I am 12 weeks too. Second pregnancy. My son is 5. I have been exhausted this pregnancy (it's beyond exhaustion really, I've been existing). Sick as a dog. Massive food aversions, struggling to find anything to drink that doesn't make me sick. I too have felt at the end of my tether and have cried a fair amount. And wanted to hibernate.

Today I am starting to feel better. I read around this time the placenta takes over. So I am hopeful this is the end of feeling ropey for now.

Try not to feel guilty. Growing a human is bloody hard. You do need to rest when your body tells you, you need to Xx

@Thegirlhasnoname good luck. I'm exhausted just thinking about your situation. Our sons nursery had Covid but luckily not in his bubble.

@KinderWild glad to hear you are feeling a bit better. It's so hard. Some days I just cry because I feel so bad and there isn't much sign of it getting better.

I'm currently 25 weeks and from 6 weeks up until about 14/15 I felt exactly as you do.
Nausea was so bad I had to get tablets and I felt so awful there were times where I wondered if I had done the right thing. All I ate were beige carbohydrates for weeks. Once the placenta kicks in it generally gets much easier.
Still getting up at 3am for a pee though, think that problem only gets worse!
Hope you feel better soon.

Thanks @Scotslass84

Fingers crossed it gets better. Glad to hear it's been the case for you 🤞

Felt exactly like you did at 12 weeks, 18 weeks tomorrow and feeling so much better. You will get there, it might just be a gradual process rather than a sudden thing. Or you might wake up one day and suddenly feel better! Don't get me wrong, I'm still suffering with some symptoms (constipation, heartburn and some aches and pains), but I am mentally so much more able to cope with it now I'm out of that awful first phase. Take it day by day and be kind to yourself 💐

@JemNo66 glad to hear you are coming out the other side. I felt better today after Avery lazy day and achieving virtually nothing.

I feel exactly the same @taraRoo it's so hard! The constipation really got me this weekend, mixed in with unbearable tiredness. Nausea has definitely eased up but will still get strong unexpected waves of it. When is your due date? mine is 5th May.

Fingers crossed things improve for us both soon x

I'm nearly 14 weeks and feeling the same. My daughter is 2 next month and I feel very guilty that I haven't got any energy to play with her properly.
I was awake at 2 am this morning and couldn't go back to sleep - luckily I'm not at work today but I am back tomorrow. I'm still feeling nauseous all day ( worse at night) with some sickness. When I was pregnant with my daughter the nausea had moved on to heartburn by this point so I'm not sure how long it will last this time.
I hope you feel better soon X x

@abitfunny 6th of May! Dating scan on Thursday. I feel your pain. It's so miserable when. It hits you like this. Hope these babies cut us some slack soon!

@Quail15 the guilt is awful isn't it? My son knows something is going on and is sticking to me like a limpet. Just wants mummy's attention and I want to hide in a dark room. I'm trying to take every opportunity to be present with him when I do feel well (but he's still having 10 x more screen time than I'd like). Hope things get better with you x

@taraRoo I could have written this post. I feel exactly the same and I'm 10+5

Hello, I'm in the same position 12 weeks with 2nd and 1st is 2 years old. Really really struggling and regretting our decision to have another. I have had bad sickness, bladder retention, dizziness and want it to be over. I see your post is from 2020. How are you doing now? Did it get better? Xx