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So my question today is when did you all stop your partners from drinking in pregnancy...

I'm nearly 37 weeks and yesterday me and my partner were chatting and I said I think he should stop drinking now just incase anything happens and he just huffed and then eventually agreed.
Let me just add he's not an alcoholic or anything like that just likes a few beers while watching football in the evening after work 😂

AIBU to ask this at 37 weeks?! I've got an elective c section booked for 39+4 , but for the past week I've been showing signs that she might just like to come early so the midwife has just said to prepare ourselves so I think I'm doing the right thing in asking him to stop now, what's everyone's opinions?!

Thanks 😀

Hi Op, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable by asking him to cut back now. My partner stopped drinking at the 36 week mark (although he hadn’t been drinking much prior to this just because he’s not been able to see his friends to go drinking with!)
He was basically of the opinion though that baby had a strong chance of coming early as 3 of his friends recently had babies and they all came early.
Funnily enough I’m due today so four weeks have lapsed and no sign of her yet but yeah, to cut a long story short I think you’re being sensible in asking, just to be on the safe side.

You shouldn’t have to “stop” him. He should have the sense to realise it’s not a good idea. Is he an arse in other ways?

I never did ask my partner to not drink. It’s never been an issue. But then I had home births and if I needed to go to hospital would have been taken in an ambulance and he could have gone with me in it and then taken a taxi home? There was no reason for him to be able to drive. But then, my DH doesn’t drink enough to be drunk. It’s usually 1 glass wine with dinner and on the odd nights a second glass of wine and that is it. Not so much that he couldn’t be there and present.

Just in case is there someone else who can drive you? You can point out that he might not be present if he can't drive you there due to his drinking. You'd hope he's realise himself.

My DH hardly drinks, hasn't this year yet, so can't answer you there. We're very boring people drink-wise.

I'm 32 weeks and my DP likes to drink on either a Friday or a Saturday but he does drink enough to get drunk. I dont mind him doing so in the house whilst watching football but we have agreed that from now he wont drink at all just in case so I think at 37 weeks you are being totally reasonable :)

He doesn't have to stop drinking surely? He can still have one drink and be OK to drive? Tbh the conversation never came up with my husband... Think it was just a given that he is not going to over do it when the baby is due so soon 🤷‍♀️

See, this is why I'm quite glad my husband doesn't really drink. I think it's unfair that a woman has to go through the whole of her pregnancy not being able to drink, but the dad can have as much as he wants. Plus, I went into labour at 30 weeks when we were in Cornwall, and if he was a drinker he wouldn't have been able to drive me to the hospital an hour and a half away

It’s sad that you have to point this out to him really

He needs to be able to drive a car at all times now, simple as that x