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12 week scan worries - don’t want to go now

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Queenbee95 · 17/10/2020 14:35

So I’m 12 weeks tomorrow, my dating scan is on Tuesday. I am terrified to go.. 3rd baby.

With DS1, I had bleeding early on and found out through transvaginal scan that I was pregnant with twins! Had 2 more scans at EPU just to check everything was going well.. last one was at 9 weeks, all looked good. 1 twin bigger by about a week.
Fast forward to 12 week scan and I could quite clearly see one twin was significantly smaller and had no heartbeat. The sonographer said baby had passed at around 10 weeks. No miscarriage, I was told about vanishing twin syndrome. Baring in mind I was 19, and had never heard of this before.

Anxiety through the roof when I was pregnant with DS2, I was scared to go to scans then too. Everything was totally fine, just 1 baby.

Anyway I’m totally freaking for my scan. My DH is not the father of my other two, so this is our first pregnancy together. Him and his family keep making remarks about twins, as I’ve quite the small bump already (it’s obvious I’m pregnant) and I feel horrible saying something about it but I feel like their remarks are making me feel 100x worse.
I did have an early scan at around 5/6 weeks this time again too (normal scan) in which one heartbeat was seen but it’s scaring me thinking maybe because they didn’t do vaginal that they could have missed something and maybe it’s all happening again. The dreams I’m having are really not helping settle me either..

I really do not want to go to this scan anymore.

AIBU?? Please tell me I am 😓

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WINDOLENE · 17/10/2020 15:20

You need to speak up for yourself, no one can do it for you. If they're not aware of your history you need to tell them. Maybe you should speak to a healthcare professional about your fears

Queenbee95 · 17/10/2020 21:02

Of course they know of my history.
Also what can a healthcare professional do except tell me if a miscarriage happens there’s nothing they can do?

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cat709 · 17/10/2020 21:27

@Queenbee95
I think @WINDOLENE is right - you just need to speak to them as they can give far more support. Fingers crossed the 12 week scan goes swimmingly, and at least they'll know your fears for further down the line / other scans.
I don't know a single woman who hasn't been a ball of mess pre 12 week scan!!

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