Sex in pregnancy

[FebruaryJuly]

(8 weeks pregnant) I have quite a bit of anxiety when it comes to sex at the moment. I do miss the intimacy, though the lack of sex isn't causing us and relationship issues at the moment. I just miss the closeness and I know that he misses it as well, but he would never make it an issue, especially when I am anxious about it whilst pregnant.

I wish my anxiety of it whilst pregnant would go away. I am 8 weeks pregnant and haven't had sex since I got my positive test because I worry that it will cause bleeding.

I'm looking for some advice or reassurance I suppose

@FebruaryJuly

(8 weeks pregnant) I have quite a bit of anxiety when it comes to sex at the moment. I do miss the intimacy, though the lack of sex isn't causing us and relationship issues at the moment. I just miss the closeness and I know that he misses it as well, but he would never make it an issue, especially when I am anxious about it whilst pregnant.

I wish my anxiety of it whilst pregnant would go away. I am 8 weeks pregnant and haven't had sex since I got my positive test because I worry that it will cause bleeding.

I'm looking for some advice or reassurance I suppose

I'm exactly the same! I'm 9 weeks on Monday and we've had sex once since I found out I was pregnant. I bled a little after sex and it completely freaked me out so we haven't had sex again. So your not the only one feeling like that xx

I'm 7+6 (so pretty much 8). I was anxious at first too, and dont think we had sex from about 4 weeks to 6 weeks. But since have and it's been totally fine, no bleeding

I’m 11+3 And my midwife suggested not having sex if it caused me anxiety. I’d already had a couple of bleeds so far, so whilst it’s 100% safe, for my own mental health we’ve abstained. Still plenty of cuddles, & kisses etc and I can’t wait until we do again, but for me personally it was a small sacrifice for peace of mind.

Maybe tmi but penetrative sex isn’t the only form of intimacy that can make you feel close. I’m a long term sufferer of endometriosis and it made sex very painful so we just found other ways Over the years it’s really paying off now I’m pregnant and have similar worries to you. Gotta say, orgasms whilst pregnant are like nothing I’ve ever experienced - don’t miss out! ❤️🙈

We had sex pretty much every night even while I was pregnant, I didn't experience any bleeding. I'm sure you'll be fine OP.

I was the same when I first found out. Went 2 weeks no sex at all, then allowed very slow, gentle sexy times lol.
I had some spotting at 6 weeks (not related to sex) and was totally panicked convinced the worse had happened. Had an early scan at 7+3 and everything was fine. It relaxed me a lot and now I don't mind being a bit rougher. We definitely don't do it as often though.
Take it easy, don't force yourself into doing anything until you feel comfortable. There's always plenty of other ways of being intimate too 😉 I'm sure as you progress you will feel more comfortable

I'd make the most of it while you can, I developed spd at 18 weeks this time and sex is just not an option!

21 weeks here with twins after losing 7 pregnancies. No sex since our IVF cycle. I'm knackered and huge and not in the mood. I do sort of miss it and do worry if DH is missing it but to be honest just making it through this pregnancy and bringing our babies home is my biggest worry and biggest priority

I'm 22 weeks and only had sex once since we found out I was pregnant. At first I was really anxious about it and not interested then it was my other half, he worries about it causing problems so I cant see it happening till after now. At 38 and waiting a long time for this to happen it's a small sacrifice. We just make sure we make time for each other and cuddles.

I'm 11 weeks and we've had sex 3 times since finding out. My DH just understands I need to be in control the whole time which he actually really enjoys. But most days I have no interest and am either exhausted or nauseous. Communication is key, and lots of cuddles and kisses 😁

@FebruaryJuly it won’t cause any harm, but if you aren’t comfortable with it then don’t. Or maybe you could wait till your a bit further along and then see if you feel more comfortable about it.
Slight bleeding can apparently happen because of the increased blood flow to the cervix in pregnancy. (According to google anyway lol)

I was slightly anxious at first but we’ve pretty much had sex the same as usual and had no issues at all, but I am slightly more aware so if there’s any discomfort we just change positions. Although sex and morning sickness do not go hand in hand so it’s definitely taken a bit of a back seat 😂

I don't think there's any need to worry about penetrative sex, but neither do you need to worry about hold off for a while, especially if as you say your partner totally understands. I'm 9 weeks and we haven't done anything in over a month, due to morning sickness and a bladder infection. Hasn't caused any problems between us. Now we're finding ways to do things that don't involve rolling around in bed!

We now have a 10 week old and have only had sex a few times since we got our positive result.

At first pregnancy sickness and fatigue stopped us, then whiplash and broken/bruised ribs and sternum then pregnancy sickness and fatigue part 2 then baby was born. We decided to wait until I could restart birth control in the mean time I developed pnd and sleep deprivation kills the mood too.

The times we did have sex it was very much as before no pain, discomfort or bleeding. It terms of hugs and kisses and other forms of intimacy I think we probably did more of that. I have felt closer to my partner this year.

If it is something you would like to do, talk through your anxieties with your partner and someone you trust. Pregnancy is a long 9 months you don't know what your next symptoms will be and after that you have the joys of newborns to factor in.