High maternal bmi upset

[anno12]

So basically i came out of my lovely 20 week scan where no issues seeing baby had been mentioned to read a drop down stating restricted view due to high bmi

This has really upset me i am a size 8 on the top and 10 to 12 in jeans and my bmi is 26 which i know technically would mean overweight but to give some perspective last year i was a size 6 with abs and very very slim maybe a bit scary slim and my bmi was still showing as 24 therefore i don't place much faith in it.

I have a disability with means at the moment i have reduced mobility (should improve after pregnancy) but this is why i have gained weight and i having struggled with eating ( not eating enough , excessive dieting and exercise) most of my life so i am very aware i have gained weight to the point i do not look in the mirror.

However after basically seeing FAT plastered on my notes i looked , i have a curvy shape big chest small waist and wide hips but other than my bump i can't see any excess fat i had a really flat tummy when i got pregnant and its only now got a small neat bump.

Now size 20 or size 10 i don't think its nice for that to be put on your notes however i am hurt it is on mine.
I spoke to my midwife about it and she was surprised as she said usually its women with bmis in the 30s that experience this and she would not class my bmi of any concern or class it is high

Do you think maybe i have hidden internal fat and thats what the sonographer struggled with even though my belly looks neat ?
Should i try lose some weight get bmi to 25 ?
Should i expect more upsetting comments this pregnancy ?

No1 else mentioned my weight i am under consultant care due to having ICP in my last pregnancy and i actually said to the consultant about weight gain since i can't walk much and she laughed and told me not be silly said i was fine so i just didn't expect any 1 to have a issue with my weight but clearly sonographer thought i was very overweight.

Ps i am so grateful scan was good but wish that hadn't been on my notes and also no offense to any one with a bigger bmi than mine i think we are know our weights and don't need reminding. For me i guess it is just a touchy subject

Maybe it was a mistake, the scanner ticked that box in error? I had this on my 20 week scan but I did have excess fat and the scan was tricky. It was clear during the process that it was a bit of an issue. That was my second pregnancy and I did put on more weight earlier. In my first i had no issues but didn't put on weight before 20 weeks. For both I started pregnancy with a BMI of 30, so I really doubt your BMI would trigger any probs.

@anno12 oh sweetheart you are not fat. You are amazing, you are growing a tiny person!

It must have been a mistake. Be kind to yourself.

Probably a mistake from the drop down menu. Had the same thing in my last pregnancy but it just made me laugh, darkly. My BMI had been 19 before pregnancy and I had so much sickness that despite gaining some weight my arms and legs were like sticks at my 20 week scan.

If I can say this gently, is this more about your relationship with your own changing body than something the midwife wrote?

It sounds like a mistake, and also they shouldnt be calculating your weight i terms of BMI when you are 20 weeks pregnant. I thought they only do this at booking appt, to establish if your BMI is over 30 and thus potentially a higher risk pregnancy.

@flapjack they are not doing booking appointments per se here due to covid however my weight should of been taken at my 13 week scan however i have bad sickness and after the scan they tested my urine and i had 4+ ketones so they said i was too ill for bloods etc and i ended up been admitted to the early pregnancy unit for anti sickness injection and fluids

So i was 17 weeks by the time bloods where taken and i got weighed, they did give me a look at baby that day but said i needed to be 18 to 23 weeks for optimal anomaly scan hence the other days appointment

I do think considering i was 7 weeks pregnant when they did my bmi with my 1st, 17 weeks is a bit unfair, my midwife said at this stage u can have water weight etc but ohwell

@hopsalong i started at 19.5 in my last pregnancy and lost weight due to sickness too but back then i thought i was huge, when i see pictures now i look sick and wonder how i managed to produce a healthy weight baby
The issue is definately me, when i told my mum she was like oh so it must of been a mistake who cares you know you are fine, but i think that is the problem i never know i am fine i've got to this stage by avoiding mirrors, will definately talk to my midwife about it

@rubbishqueen thank you

I wish i could forget it but i woke up at 3am last night still stressing over it, i'm sure il feel better once i talk to my mw next week

@allthebubbles

I would of thought i would of noticed if she struggled

With my 1st i was very thin but it was a very difficult scan due to babys poistion and his squirming and the pics are so fuzzy but this scan was so easy, apart from some big kicks when the sonographer felt and laughed about so i do think it seems a mistake

Although i did read last night regardless of bmi some ladies have a type of fat that makes scans hard, definately have over thought this

Are you having any support with your mental health? Speak to your midwife for extra support.
I'm high risk as I'm geriatric (37) and obese (size 14), not bothered me they're medical terms but it would my sister who struggles with body image.

Seriously get a counsellor. Your midwife is not a counsellor.