Did you find your second pregnancy harder?

[BaaHumbugg]

I'm expecting my second but finding it so much harder this time, last time I worked full time and was really sick but now I can hardly get out of bed! I guess I am older and have a 4 year old now which makes a difference but just can't believe how much harder it feels this time. Anyone else the same? I hate pregnancy

I am 37+1 and my 1st born is turning 4 next week. I’ve found it so much harder, swollen feet and ankles, really sore back, more aches and pains.
I worked until 39 weeks last time, my commute was over 2 hours each day and I worked long hours. There is no way I could have done that this time around!!

Although one positive, the pregnancy has absolutely flown by x

Oh wow you are so close to the end, good luck! Glad it's not just me finding it tough, I feel so pathetic! I'm only 34 so not a spinster but feel ancient!

I’m having more ongoing aches and pains than the first and with my first I ended up in hospital 3 times due to gallstones pain and also had obstetric cholastasis. Haven’t had any of those again yet (not yet in 3rd trimester but close so there’s still a chance) but I definitely feel more tired and feel like this 2nd time is more uncomfortable.

I feel more pelvic pain as well. Is anyone got that? Sometimes it hurts when I try to sit or even if I need to break wind it hurts.

I also hate pregnancy. I love it when he kicks But everything else with pregnancy I don’t like. I’m 24 weeks today and just can’t wait for him to be out lol

Omg with bells on. I'm 38+4 and it has just been brutal. I am never ever doing this again.

Everything hurts and I'm so swollen. My DS 2 is just attached to me like a limpet right now but I just can't carry him around like he wants me to. I feel terrible 😥

Yes!!! I commented on another thread similar to this last week. First time I was so small and neat and just carried on as normal. Had him two days after I finished work- he was a but early but i would have worked right up to my due date of work would have allowed.

This time i feel huge, I'm in pain everywhere. I have piles. I've had umpteen water infections and thrush. I'm emotional. I had terrible sickness for 10 weeks. I'm just big, slow and useless at the minute. I finished maternity leave at 34 weeks. Weve only got a few weeks left. I'm seriously counting down. Safe to say we wont be having more than 2!
I think it's also harder emotionally because you're worried about how your first born is feeling and how they'll adapt

Yes I am terrified for my first born, it keeps me awake at night worrying about her! I am never doing this again either, there is some comfort in that somewhere!

I feel you! Currently 21 weeks and I’m already completely over it. I have a 3.5yo and aside from first trimester sickness I breezed through pregnancy with her. This time around I’m older, more tired and more hormonal and I just can’t wait for it to be over. SPD started about 4 weeks ago too and the heartburn has just hit now. I cannot stop complaining I don’t think it helps being pregnancy during Covid and being stuck at home almost all the time - I’m WFH but am craving social interaction. Least some of you have the end in sight!

The early part was much easier second time round (I was sick every day and exhausted with my first) but now 33 weeks and getting much more knackered. Really hard work with a 2.5yo who won't nap in her bed, only in the car or buggy! I want a nap! I'm huge and nothing fits now but it's last baby so not buying any more clothes - I reckon I'll just be in PJs permanently by 38 weeks.

Mentally harder but physically I've been really lucky and much easier, but I'm just really hoping delivery and recovery straightforwards so I can look after DC1

@Disappointedkoala I'm 34 weeks and also have a 2.5 year old who only naps in car or buggy! Although lately it's only really the car! And if she naps she won't go to bed until late, but if she doesn't nap she wakes hourly and we all have a really disturbed night

It's going to be interesting when baby arrives! She really honestly will not nap in a bed

It's so hard isn't it! I really miss having that hour to myself to get things done/watch TV/sleep. DD's sleep has absolutely gone to crap as well over the last few months so I might get a few nights of sleeping through and then days of being up several times in the night. She's all me as well so when my DH goes in to settle her all he gets is "go away daddy". There's nothing like squeezing your massive baby bump into a single bed with a toddler to desperately try to get more sleep!

YES. I don't remember it being this hard with my first. I've definitely suffered more physically this time round. 5 weeks and counting!!

@Disappointedkoala mine says "go away Daddy" too 😂

I have a difference between pregnancies over 2 years. I can say that the second time was much harder. The belly became noticeable almost immediately, and from the 20th week, I was like a seal. Although for the first time my belly was rounded closer to 35 weeks. Throughout the second pregnancy I felt tired all time. But I still love this time))

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Yes so much harder. I suffer from HG and this time round has been worse. DS3 wants me to play all the time which is difficult and I feel awful saying no when I am really sick.

I am bigger this time round, more back pain, less sleep and more miserable. I am getting sterilised at my section as never want to do this again. Also hate being pregnant with a passion.

Yep. Second time is awful. I had hyperemesis with both pregnancies but going through it with a toddler was definitely worse! Then I got pelvic girdle pain really early on. Thankfully it’s been manageable but I still get really sore and have to be careful with what activities I’m doing. I’m about 100 times more tired because you can’t just have a nap when you fancy. And DS has decided that he wakes up in the night for no apparent reason and like @Disappointedkoala and @Dinosaursinthebathtub has no interest in his dad! Plus his behaviour is really shit and I’m sure it’s because I’m massively useless as a parent when I feel this shit, and he’s anxious about a new baby so we’re just feeding off of each other’s grumpiness.

@FilthyforFirth

Yes so much harder. I suffer from HG and this time round has been worse. DS3 wants me to play all the time which is difficult and I feel awful saying no when I am really sick.

I am bigger this time round, more back pain, less sleep and more miserable. I am getting sterilised at my section as never want to do this again. Also hate being pregnant with a passion.

I hate it too. I honestly don’t understand how anyone enjoys it. I’m young and fit too... I really don’t understand why it makes me feel so terrible!

@BaaHumbugg I’m 34 too, and feel like a total granny x

Loads harder second time round.

I really breezed through it first time, she arrived 3 weeks early, never got to the fed up stage.

Second time round I had gestational diabetes. I was at the hospital for check ups a lot. I was much more uncomfortable and totally knackered from normal parenting of a 2 year old!

That is why I'm done! My youngest just turned one. She's amazing, but there will be no more!

Second was probably a bit harder, but my first was twelve years ago and the second wasn7 years ago. The third however has made me suicidal. Not an exaggeration.

Loads harder. HG again, PGP, lockdown with a 2 yr old, clexane injections, growth scans all over the place. Just exhausted and nauseous all the time and can’t rest because of the toddler. I’m literally never doing this again.