Help please - Exposed to corona - third trimester :(

[KateJ59]

Hi all,

I am a very worried person right now. My father in law has been tested positive for covid, my husband saw him on Friday when he just started to feel unwell. (He had no temp at time just felt run down and woke up the next day with a fever and slight cough) my husband did not hug or go near but did eat dinner in his house across the table.

I am 28 weeks pregnant and I am so worried.

1. I don’t want to get it as it's more dangerous it in third trimester
2. If my husband gets symptoms (or even myself) I don’t wanna miss my antenatal next week as it’s already a week late because my midwife is away
3. What If I have reduced movements or something scary and I am not allowed in hospital???

Has anyone been through this at all? I am freaking out and don't know what to do.

Thanks x

@KateJ59 You'd have to check with your midwife or hospital, most wouldn't allow you to go to a routine appointment but some hospitals have set up rooms for urgent scans or monitoring so if it's something scary they should try to offer you some sort of support.

I think you're over thinking things too much, if you or your husband has symptoms then the hospital will still see you for emergency situations even for reduce movements, they have a duty of care, it just may be that you are seen in a side room instead of on a ward!

Theres no evidence to suggest coronavirus has any affect on pregnancy, even the few cases that have happened, it tends to be based around if you have a underlying health condition- chances of your husband getting it is low even though he has been in the same room as someone who's tested positive

I know someone who tested positive and he was the only person in his household to test positive, even though he still hugged his kids and kissed his girlfriend! The stress will do you more harm then good at this point!

Your husband should be isolating anyway because he's had that contact with someone who's tested positive, he should notify his work, you should isolate and notify your midwife as per following the rules

Please speak to your midwife. I understand that you don't want to miss an appointment but equally we need to be responsible to others too.

They do have procedures in place for emergency care. Please don't worry about that.

@KateJ59 Poor you - I really feel for you in this situation. It will be alright: at 28 weeks you're barely in the third trimester, and most likely even if you did get it, it would be okay. I believe that you are right, it's worse in the third trimester - my doctor told me this just yesterday. But the reason for this is that you don't want to have it right when you're about to go through the trauma of labour - and you're far enough away from that. So don't panic and rest up, and this period will most likely just pass with little drama.

However, I DO think that you and your husband should be isolating for 14 days and absolutely going nowhere near an antenatal clinic, where there could be more vulnerable pregnant ladies with underlying health conditions like diabetes. Not having symptoms doesn't mean you aren't carrying it. If I were you I would stay home for 14 days; and reschedule the appointment, just to ensure you're not passing it on. Sorry, I'm sure that's not what you want to hear.

It will hopefully all be well - and wishing you the best of luck.You have support here too - try not to worry and think of other things: boxsets, books and babies! xx

I wouldnt worry too much, in the world of track and trace you are a contact of a contact so wouldnt even be notified. If you FIL gets a positive it will be your DH that needs to isolate away from you, you wouldnt need to unless your DH showed symptoms.

Your DH should be in self isolation (lengthy contact indoors with a confirmed case)

Are you able to isolate from him effectively in your home?

Agree that you need to tell the MW what is up, so your appointment can be managed safely. DH will still be within the 14 day isolation, so he should not be going, but if you can isolate from him effectively, you may be OK. But you need to leave it to the HCPs to decide what is safe within the clinics

So firstly, your husband should be isolating.

But I would be more concerned about your extreme anxiety levels than anything else.

Thanks everyone.

To be clear my husband is 100% OF course isolating. We are very careful have been since it started as my own father has a cancerous brain tumour, so pregnancy and that has made me super careful and we follow the rules.

I will speak to my midwife and see what she says. I was looking to see if anyone could relate/been through it as yes, I have severe anxiety for many reasons and this to be honest has thrown me off. Apologies if that looks like I am overthinking, it's been a very stressful few days.

We live in a 2 bedroom flat so apart from sleeping In different rooms it's obviously not easy to self isolate together.

I’m 37 weeks and am currently self isolating because I was a contact of someone who tested positive. My 36 week MW appointment was done by phone which wasn’t ideal but I totally see why.
I did worry about reduced movements during my isolation period. The hospital were great and saw me in a little room quickly and efficiently, they booked me in for a growth scan the next day which, again, was done quickly to get me in and out of the building.
It was all fine. If anything was better for me as I got a member of staff to myself and was in and out very quickly!
I’m on day 11 of isolation now so, fingers crossed, everything will be ok for me!

@Sls668 - ahhh I hope you're ok! So pleased it sounds like you've had no symptoms? Thank you, that's very reassuring to hear they still see you if you're worried, that's really what was making me most nervous. Thanks for coming back to me and I hope you feel well and the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly ❤️