I just feel like a failure already, how will I even be a good mum?

[Betty94]

Hi all,

I think I've posted about this before but I just need somewhere to write it all out, I'm having such a difficult pregnancy and I already feel like a failure - first trimester I suffered with HG and just felt like crap all the time, had loads of time off work then at around 18 weeks I started feeling better and thought I could do it but now I'm 24 weeks pregnancy I'm suffering with pregnancy insomnia, in about 5 days I've had like 8/9 hours sleep if that, I'm not eating properly because I'm too tired to eat or cook so I order shit take away that I don't end up eating anyway, I'm drinking more coffee than I should to keep awake during work, I haven't showered in a couple of days because I'm just so tired. I can't concentrate to watch tv or anything. I sat up in bed last night just crying. I'm just really struggling, I can't give my baby what he needs and I just don't think I'm ever gonna be okay again.

You need to seek support in real life. Do you have a Midwife or GP that you can talk to?How your body reacts to pregnancy has zero to do with how good a parent you will be. Pregnancy is temporary it will pass soon and you will feel better but be kind to your self in the mean time. Take time off work if you have to and look after yourself.

On the contrary, you're feeling quite so shit because you're giving your baby everything it needs..you are left with the dregs!
Difficult pregnancies are such hard work.
Don't be too hard on yourself, take some multivitamins if your diet is struggling a bit. Get some fresh air every day. Rest when you're tired even if you don't sleep.
Have you got some support at home?

A difficult pregnancy is so tough OP. But it absolutely does NOT mean that you will be a bad mum. Hang in there.

Oh no that sounds so hard you are doing your best with what you have, would it help if you spoke to your midwife about how you are feeling ?
Fwiw I had terrible pregnancies never bloomed was always ill,tired barely ate I could go on. Just have to push through eat what we can take a vitamin and hunker down till he comes but don't be alone speak to your midwife or go.

I do have support at home, and I have a midwife appointment next week - I've also booked a GP appointment for tonight as I can't carry on like this, thanks everyone

Aw that's so hard, there's a reason sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture!
I have nothing helpful to say except that this too will pass. Personally I'm finding that every new pregnancy "issue" seems to last a few weeks then it passes and is replaced by something different.

Ah so sorry to read this. Definitely get some help from your GP and maybe some time off work. For what it’s worth I hated every minute of pregnancy, first half was HG, the straight into PGP so bad I struggled to walk, and the last few weeks just so tired and drained. I also ate badly and did very little exercise, was worried I wasn’t providing for baby, but labour and recovery were still fine and baby was born big and healthy. Your body knows what it’s doing, you may feel like crap but baby will be fine! Hope you can get some support, everything is so much worse when you’re tired.