Feel like I just need to talk! Feel rubbish! 9 weeks pregnant

[BessieBye]

Hello everyone

I am feeling sooooo rubbish 😫 and worrying about everything. Today I’ve had bad nausea, horrible taste in my mouth which makes nausea worse, niggling feelings in my tummy, sore back & sore shoulders (think that’s from doing some deep cleaning on Sunday!) and now worst headache!! 😭

To top it off, my booking in results came back and I have urine infection 😞 I’ve had no typical urine infection symptoms so I was shocked. Wondering if that’s what could be causing how horrible I feel?

I could honestly burst out in tears, every niggle or pain I am fretting thinking I’ve done something to hurt this baby. Did I lift something to heavy? Did I eat something I shouldn’t have? Was I around cleaning products too long? The anxiety is so real.. I suffer with it anyway.

Does anyone at all have some relaxation tips or just to give me a virtual slap? Am I normal for thinking this way?

All I want to be is excited 😢

Massive virtual hug.

The first trimester really is AWFUL! You are totally normal for the way you feel and I genuinely know it doesn't feel like this but - it does get better.

Just do whatever you need to feel better. Nap, eat, get a pregnancy massage, retail therapy literally whatever you need.

I felt so rough and was consumed with thoughts and then boom I had my 12w scan and about 5 days later I felt normal and had energy and I couldn't quite believe the low level of functioning I had managed for the previous 12 weeks.

Nearly there xxx

@serialplanner thank you so much ❤️
Just burst out in tears, I know a lot of women feel like this but when it happens to you, sometimes you feel like the only person in the world and I feel like an idiot for always complaining to my partner or my Mam. 😩

I am sooo grateful for being able to be pregnant.. but my word it is exhausting already 😂

Nov 2nd for my scan... 3 weeks today! I hope I also feel the relief soon after that 12 weeks. I am so close and my symptoms seem to have ramped up so I think it’s messing with my emotions!

Thanks so much again for your comment xxx

I would echo what @serialplanner has said. I'm now 13 weeks and gradually emerging from the hell hole that was the first trimester. Honestly it's a brutal time and when you're in it you feel like it's never going to end. I was on 3 different antisickness meds for hyperemesis and still have moments now where certain things turn my stomach but in terms of functioning, the turning point for me was around weeks 11-12. Hang in there; I was like you a matter of weeks ago thinking this will never ever end. I cried every day. It does end and it does get better. x

Forgot to add I also had a UTI at around 8 weeks, so had to have antibiotics on top of the 3 different sickness meds. It was not fun! But I promise, this too shall pass...

@LouJ85 thank you and glad you’re feeling a bit better!
I feel utterly rubbish right now and freaking myself out. Worst headache I’ve ever had and paracetamol ain’t shifting it! I’m having my first proper wobble I think. The crying probably isn’t helping the head either!!!

Ahhh poor you on all those things! It’s mad isn’t it what it does to our bodies; both good and bad.
Since falling pregnant I’ve had bacterial vaginosis, thrush and now cystitis... midwife will start thinking I don’t keep clean! 😭 doing everything I should so I have no idea why I keep getting problems down there. I do think having the urine results today tipped me over the edge into panic mode!! Xxx

@BessieBye

Your post exactly sums me up!
I’m 8 weeks+5 and I’m having a terrible time just now, today has been one off the hardest.
I have broke down twice to my partner today, I was constant sick, told my work I had to leave early (even tho I’m working from home) had to turn the laptop off and go upto bed. Must have been sick more than 10 times today, all I want to do is sleep and be left alone.
I feel like I’ve not been able to connect with the life that’s growing in me, I’m just so negative. This is my second pregnancy so I’m hoping once I see the scan I get that glow. It feels so lonely and I do hate moaning to my bf about it all day, but it takes over your life!
reading your post it was EXACTLY how I am.

Here’s hoping for a better day tomorrow for us both
Wish you luck x

Hello @Alanares89.. thanks for your message last night and I hope you have found some solace in reading my post as I have reading your response ❤️ It is a really relieving feeling when you remember you’re not alone.
I feel better this morning/afternoon, I think too much happened yesterday and I just lost the plot.

Sounds like your symptoms are worse than mine! So sorry you’re vomiting so much day to day! I thought my nausea was bad 😟

Stay strong and we really really don’t have long to go til our 12wk scan 😘

Hey, totally know how you are feeling. I have had urine infection since I found out I was pregnant and finally got the clear yesterday (11 weeks) after 3 rounds of antibiotics. I absolutely lost it in week 9 because the urine infection adds to the exhaustion and general feeling of meh. I had a constant ache in my tummy and I just kept saying when's the magical time I'll start to enjoy this process?! Well I'm now 11 weeks, the infection has gone and it honestly feels like I'm coming out the other side!

The first trimester is so hard, but we're all in this together!