Terrified of miscarriage - any advice

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Hello, very much as the title says. I'm 9 w and 1 day pregnant. This is as far as I've ever been with a pregnancy. I've had two miscarriages in the past, the most recent was last year when I had a blighted ovum. I've already had a scan at six weeks and everything was normal.

My symptoms fluctuate but are very much still there, I have occasional cramping but no bleeding but I can't get it out of my head that something will go wrong. A friend has recently had an missed miscarriage and I can't get the possibility out of my head.

I was doing OK until she recently posted about this. Any advice?

Hi, congratulations on your pregnancy and I'm really sorry to hear about your losses. I am at the end of my pregnancy now and can relate to the constant fear although I never had a loss myself. If its feasible money wise would you book in another private scan between now and your first NHS scan for peace of mind? My symptoms were minimal,changed frequently and I didn't 'feel' pregnant for quite a while and everything was perfectly fine in case that offers you any reassurance in the meantime xx

Hi OP, I can relate to how you are feeling. hugs I want to congratulate you, but if you are like me, I wouldn't want to jinx it until after 12 weeks!

Superstition aside, there really isn't much you can do but rest rest rest. None of it is your fault, it is so common sadly, but try not to worry too much (easier said than done!), stress is not good! I had two MCs last year, I had no pregnancy symptoms first time round, spotting on booking day, then scan confirmed it. Had full on pregnancy symptoms second time round, I didn't dare book it till 11weeks, went for 12 week scan, everything seems normal to me but sadly missed MC. Thoroughly heartbroken but I conceived straight after and now have a 4 week old bubba.

So keep your chin up! You are doing great, rest up, take your vitamins, stop looking at your friends' posts, look forward to that scan in 3 weeks! Fingers and toes crossed for you.

Don't worry I understand the fear - I have had a silent miscarriage which was only identified at the 12 week scan. I'm now 21 weeks with twins after 5 miscarriages and 2 ectopics. The only way I've been able to manage my anxiety is to have regular private scans - between 6 weeks and 10 weeks i probably had 1 per week.
Assuming everything looked good at your first scan then the chance of a MMC is really very low and you should hold on to the fact that the odds are on your side for having a successful and healthy baby

In terms of symptoms I haven't had any - considering I'm having twins. No nausea, no sickness, no sore boobs - nothing x

I had two miscarriages as well and found my subsequent pregnancies, particularly the first 20 weeks, mentally excruciating. The biggest help to me was to give myself short term goals to pass the time. First it was to get to 6 weeks, then 8 weeks. Then it was 10 weeks, then 12 weeks, then 16 weeks, then 20, then 24, then 28. All the big mile stones for viability basically.

Also I banned myself from googling symptoms or lack of symptoms. Whatever you google will come up with a horror story so it's best to stay away from the internet. Pregnancy after loss is so so difficult.

Thank you for your kind responses. It is reassuring.

I agree with a PP . I needed lots of reassurance scans early on. Its the worst feeling . I felt like I couldn’t enjoy my pregnancy because I didn’t believe it was real or going to end well . Time went by so slow . It got a bit better after the 12 week scan and much better after the 20 week scan , especially as I started feeling baby move . Hang in there !!

Hi, I have one child and I am 30 weeks pregnant. I had a MMC that was found at the 12 week scan. The way I coped with the subsequent pregnancy (got pregnant the next month) was a scan at 10 weeks and focusing on everything that was different this time, the symptoms were different. Also, my midwife told me it is super unusual to have a MMC. I only joined Mumsnet after this happened, first pregnancy never even visited here as had no need to. Women who have had issues are more likely to sign up. Good luck