10 week anxiety

[JeffV]

Hello,

Thanks for reading! I've had a scan at 10 weeks (yesterday) and have seen a heart beat and measures as expected which was lovely. The scan was done privately as I'm incredibly anxious due to two previous miscarriages and have had some brown discharge during this pregnancy. Epau wasn't worried about this but as I've only ever been the 1 in 4 I'm have been a bit (under statment) stressed. Other than DP I haven't got anyone else to talk to about my anxieties as my GP won't set up my MW booking appointment for another week or so and she was a bit uninterested when I said I was struggling with anxiety.

I was just looking for some advice about getting through the next couple of weeks to the 12 week scan and some reassurance about being at 10 weeks as I'm terrified of MC or any other problems/complications which would mean losing our little one.

Thanks x

Oh love, I’m 10 weeks too and haven’t had an appointment or scan yet, so can relate to the anxiety! Things sound good for you, so hopefully they’ll stay that way. For me, I’m trying to acknowledge that it’s out of my control so there’s no point stressing about it. Easier said than done, I know! Look after yourself.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Go back to your GP if your really struggling with the anxiety. In the meantime relax, sleep, and eat well. Try and think good thoughts xx

Congratulations OP. A heartbeat after 8 weeks means your miscarriage risk drops to 1.6% so please try not to worry. Easier said than done but the odds are very much in your favour now.

Congratulations OP
Were your previous miscarriages at this point or earlier?
As Trousers has said, the risk decreases significantly after 8 weeks, and each day is a day closer.
It's easy to say for you to relax and enjoy pregnancy, I'm 11 weeks with my 3rd and worry throughout, it's my nature. I'd persist with an other GP at your practice, they sound useless. Try some breathing exercises

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I’ve had several miscarriages so I 100% know how you feel. Once you hit 8 wks and the heartbeat has been seen the chances of miscarriage really are minuscule and at 10 wks they are even lower - like really tiny. Really hoping all is well at your next scan - sending hugs xxx

Thank you all for replying. Its so nice to talk to people who understand. I feel quite alone in all my stresses apart from DP. My previous miscarriages have been earlier than this so its both exciting and scary to get to 10 weeks. I will try my GP again but they aren't very understanding. Has anyone else managed to get help with pregnancy anxiety? Im just wondering what they could offer/would do?

I'm rubbish at links but if you google datayze miscarriage you will find a risk calculator which shows you the risk reduction each day. I found it helpful

Hi @JeffV I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and also so anxious despite a good private scan a week ago. The anxiety feels unbearable at times. I've had 2 miscarriages and have never got this far before. I'm googling loss of symptoms every time I feel slightly better for a few minutes!

The odds are most definitely in our favour though. When I got the positive pregnancy test I had no idea how I'd get through the coming weeks to know if it was viable, but the time passes anyway and we're so close to 12 weeks now.xx

You can take some medication to ease anxiety when you are pregnant Zoloft? (I think!) xx

Thank you I will definitely try and talk to a GP. Last night I was having bad back pain and it sent me into a bit of a spiral. Pregancy after loss is so hard

Hello - what I am going to say isn't to try and fob you off but I found it actually gets easier as the weeks go by.

I had a similar experience where I lost two babies by 9/10 week mark. I had anxiety about this pregnancy and wouldn't believe it might be ok and was always thinking the worst. Had a scan at 8 weeks as I couldn't concentrate and again at 10 weeks. What I did was try and use science to help. I am over 40 so 50% chance of mc. But once you get to 12 weeks the risk starts to massively reduce and so on as the weeks goes by.

So it's super hard but now you need to distract yourself and only ever look 2 weeks in advance. So once you get to 12 weeks you focus on 14 and so on.

Soon I got to 20 weeks doing this and then you start to feel movements.

So I want to say it's complexity normal to feel anxious. But as weeks go by it will become easier.

How’s your back pain OP? Feeling any better today?

Hi @Suzi888

The back pain has eased off slightly but im now also having sharp cramps. I have a MW appointment to do bloods so im hoping she will give some advice.

Thanks @welshladywhois40 im trying to go by week even day when I get stressed. Im hoping it gets easier as you say xx

@JeffV would meditation be something you’d try to help with the anxiety? The Headspace app has a whole course of specific pregnancy meditations - I’ve just started them as I had an embryo transferred yesterday and am starting the 2 week wait.
Wishing you all the very best with your pregnancy, sounds like you’ve been through a lot to get to this point. No wonder it’s hard to relax and believe this one is sticking

Glad your back pain has eased off a bit. I had cramps throughout pregnancy, particularly painful the first few months. A bit like period pain, enough to keep me awake though and I found it a bit unnerving too. I was an older mum like the pp. I used to get a pillow and sort of wrap it around my tummy and that helped a bit with cramps, though sounds a bit silly now.
Good thing you are seeing the MW tomorrow, I hope she can ease your mind. Hope you get some sleep tonight.