Rant about some people on here!

[verygreatful66]

This is just a rant as I'm really upset and hurt by some comments that I have gotten from other mums on here..

As a first time mum who's experienced a miscarriage my anxiety is high which I hope other people can understand certain things I post might be annoying for others but I don't mean to be I get so much horrible comments from mums especially when I asked about whopping cough and that I was in two minds a lady said "some people shouldn't be allowed to breed" which devastated me I thought this platform was for everyone now I'm scared of making post Bec of the comments I might get

I haven't read your previous posts to see what other people are saying about your own conduct – in general, people tend to hide behind an anonymous username and feel beyond comfortable spouting vitriol and judgement.

As a rule of thumb - if you wouldn't say it to a person's face, don't you dare say it to someone online.

I've heard mumsnet called 'the viper's den' by the press. It's not the place you should be seeking blind support for you anxious thoughts from. I'm sure you can see that if you've become upset by things people have said.

I was once told I should kill myself because I was depressed by my (at the time) infertility by some lovely members here and that they were sick of me correcting others' misconceptions/ inaccuracies (mostly about he science of reproduction).

Sticks and stones. But if you aren't in a place mentally to be called out when people disagree with you, delete the app, get support in real life.

Sorry about that love. One, sorry about the miscarriage. And hope you're getting the support to get through it.
Two, sorry that people can be so nasty on here.
I've posted once ,not a comment, but an actual post in regards to fraud, and vowed never to do it again. The comments I got back were horrific. More than one person saying how naive and stupid I was. The hilarious thing was I knew it was a scam and fraudulent phone call, I was just sharing my experience and giving people the heads up as it actually came from a barclays phone number that these scammers were able to hack into. I also use the term hunk for my husband and have been bashed for that. I dont even understand the issue. So bloody what. He is a hunk. But I was called ridiculous names and just thought how sad. But then again, not everyone is like that and months later I have still continued to stay on here. Dont let people get you down or make you upset. You just focus on you and what makes you happy.

On the note of whooping cough, are you or are you not going to have one? I've just booked mine but not the flu jab.

@physicskate whaaaatttttt... did I just read correctly....told to kill yourself....

That just makes me very upset and frustrated for you. Sorry to hear that. Hope all is well with you now and you're doing ok in yourself.

If you suffer from anxiety it’s probably best you don’t join. People are bound to have different ideas, that’s what makes it interesting.

@ShalomToYouJackie

OP, with respect, it's probably quite hard for people to continue being nice to you when you respond with things like "come off my post love" or when someone asked if you have you spoken to someone as you sounded quite anxious you said "of course I am as you don't know my history" and then told that poster they were making you feel bad about the health of your child, because they asked if you were getting help for your anxiety.

You've made over 20 posts in the past month across 2 usernames worrying about things in your pregnancy, your mental health is clearly quite fragile at the moment and I'd step away from MN for a bit if you are getting upset by people trying to help you

^^This.

Are you the whooping cough anti Vaxxer?

I think the problem is that the science and medical experience justifies the giving of a whooping cough vaccine but you had your own ideas about it? In a situation like this where it's an accepted and safe practice which saves babies lives and prevents them going through a distressing disease the overwhelming majority of replies are going to be people who think you are bat Shit crazy and selfish for even thinking that you wouldn't have the vaccine?

You have to remember this is a public forum and we are all entitled to our opinions and that the best advice that can be given sometimes is a hard dose of reality delivered in a way you are probably not used to? many people don't like hearing the truth this way so then complain about MN being a vipers den?

@ivfbeenbusy....I don't think she was an anti-vaxxer. I got the impression she just needed opinions, as she seemed to have been given questionable advice by her midwife.