12 Week Scan tomorrow; terrified after ER visit 2 weeks ago...

[courtney455]

Hi All,

I just need to get this out of me; I am terrified of my 12 week appointment tomorrow. I should be 12 weeks, 4 days by then but we had a scary incident of bad cramping at 10-5 and I was sent to the ER for a scan. Baby was ok with a strong heartbeat at the time, but they tested my blood and I had traces of blood. The doctor was optimistic but said I would just have to wait and see.

I am terrified that incident was the start of something and I am going to find out terrible news tomorrow. I haven't slept all week and I feel like I am going mad. The last two weeks have been hell.

The cramping stopped after that day and again, I don't see blood visible to my eye. I am still feeling all the pg symptoms but I know they would last anyways even if the worst case scenario happened.

Anyone have a scary incident and everything was ok? I know the scan should have eased my anxiety but the doctor kept qualifying it by saying "for now" and it made my last 2 weeks absolute hell.

Just looking for some optimistic stories to get through the day/night.

I totally get it, mines on Monday after bleeding and an ok scan and it's still very scary. I do the miscarriage reassurance calculator nearly every day:
At 10-5 When you had your scare you had a 97.8% chance of everything being fine. Those are amazing odds, no bookie would take that bet!
I keep reminding myself that worrying won't change any outcome, that thinking positively won't jinx it, and that most people are fine. But it's hard.
Can your partner attend with you? Please let us know how you get on

Hi ParkandRide,

I'm sorry you're going through the same thing but you're absolutely right. The odds are in our favour. I should add I meant to say they found traces of blood in my urine not blood haha I have GOT to start reading these over before I post....

Everyone thinks I'm bananas for being worried after seeing everything was ok but I just can't help it. I never thought this experience would be SO anxiety inducing; I am glad to hear I am not alone in that.

My partner can't attend unfortunately; we live in a small town where the appointments are done at the hospital and due to COVID no partners or guests, but my partner actually works at the hospital so he meets me right outside the room afterwards so that is helpful.

I will absolutely update. I am sending you all good thoughts and vibes for your scan. We will be alright

I LOVE the misscarriage reassurer @Parkandride

Its great isn't it @theDaydreamBelievers I keep whittering on about it!

It is so anxiety inducing you are right @courtney455 I can't imagine going through this again! I'm normally pretty relaxed... mine hasn't changed their rules on partners either, we will be fine though

Good luck tomorrow, I can't imagine how worried you must feel. I'm 5 weeks tomorrow and just feel constantly anxious!

Good luck for tomorrow. I’ve been having really bad pain too and so going to call EPU tomorrow. Hopefully these aches and pains are all just the fun of having healthy pregnancies! Let us know how you get on x

Hi All,

Just wanted to update since I know I'm often left wondering when I read these threads; the scan went beautifully! Baby was good, healthy and was waving at us the whole time. I am so relieved. So first trimester scares can DEFINITELY have happy endings. Thank you all for the support and for those of you waiting for your 12 weeks scans, happy and healthy scans to you all; it will be ok!

So glad everything went well and congratulations on your pregnancy

I'm so glad @courtney455! Congratulations

So pleased for you

So pleased your scan went well OP, congratulations! Mine is in 17 days and I had a private scan today at 10+2.

I have also had blood showing up in my urine dip tests for a few weeks and have been told this can be because of a UTI, kidney irritation or kidney stones (amongst over things probably). None of the nurses seemed worried. Just incase you are still worried about it xx