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Did anyone's personal midwife ever deliver their baby?

50 replies

AlwaysBelieve19 · 06/10/2020 23:47

First time mum here and just curious if anyone's midwife did deliver your baby as I really have a good connection with my midwife and would love for her to deliver my baby

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wizzywig · 06/10/2020 23:49

are you in the uk op?

Seventytwoseventythree · 06/10/2020 23:56

I assume you mean the midwife you see for your antenatal appointments? I saw the same one every time (UK) so I can see why you would call her that. But mine only did antenatal and not deliveries, so there was no chance she would deliver the baby.

daffodilheart · 07/10/2020 00:08

No. I was told there is community midwives who do the checks at doctors etc and then delivery midwives at the hospital etc.

Nittersing · 07/10/2020 00:27

I had the same midwife all the way through and yes she was there for the delivery. Technically I delivered my own baby though as I was in a big tub and she was a good metre away. I "fished" him out myself 😄

olderthanyouthink · 07/10/2020 01:00

SILs midwife was supposed to but she has to be transferred to the hospital so didn't in the end. (Midwife did go with her I think just didn't deliver the baby)

Me? I barely saw the same midwife twice and delivered my own baby alone while "my" midwife (the one I'd seen that day and who we got when we called) refused to come out or send someone when I said I was pushing Angry DP had to call an ambulance. Trying to work out if I could save up enough to go private for the next baby.

We live in very different areas though.

olderthanyouthink · 07/10/2020 01:02

Sorry for the rant Blush my experience just really angers me

Nicknamegoeshere · 07/10/2020 01:03

I paid for a private (independent) midwife using savings and birthed at home. Best money I've ever spent 😊

TitsOutForHarambe · 07/10/2020 01:10

Yes, every single time. But I live in Australia where we have something called the Midwifery Group Practice, which means I have an assigned midwife who takes me from my first appointment, my birth and right through to aftercare and home visits for a few weeks after baby is born.
So the only reason my midwife wouldn't have been at a birth would be if she was ill that day or something.

I think this doesn't happen in the UK unless you pay for private healthcare.

FagashJackie · 07/10/2020 01:12

None of mine did, but the delivery midwives were absolutely brilliant, they made time to get to know me, and my husband and family.
In my opinion it doesn't matter such a great deal, as long as the one you have with you is doing her job.

Disappointedkoala · 07/10/2020 06:32

No. I'm not sure I would have wanted her to either. Was happy with the hospital ones.

namechange7438 · 07/10/2020 06:49

Mine did but only by sheer chance! I saw the same midwife for all antenatal appointments, happened to arrive at the birth centre just as she'd come in shift as was working overtime there because someone was off sick so she delivered my baby too 😊

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 07/10/2020 07:01

I had a homebirth. One hour later, it would have been her shift. As it was, I was on daily home visits on the lead up to the birth so I met the whole community team pre birth.

SequinSmile · 07/10/2020 07:02

I never even saw the same midwife twice! No chance.

LaBellina · 07/10/2020 07:05

No, I met my midwife only when labour had started. Didn't matter at all because she was one of the sweetest and most gentle HCP I have ever met. When I was very emotional a few days after DS was born (we were staying in the hospital) I got a hug and a very sweet handwritten letter from her that said how happy she was to have delivered my son. That woman truly is an angel and I couldn't have wished for someone better.

motheroreily · 07/10/2020 07:31

No. I saw different midwives for all my appointments and then saw another different one for the first hour or so of labour then another after that.
It was OK though and I didn't mind.

022828MAN · 07/10/2020 07:33

No as the antenatal one worked in the community, not the hospital and vice versa.

Fifthtimelucky · 07/10/2020 07:38

For the first, in a big hospital on the edge of London, I never saw the same midwife twice.

For the second, we had moved to a small town. All ante natal appointments were at the local health centre and I got to know most of the community midwives. I was having a home birth so, barring an emergency, I knew that one of the four senior midwives would deliver my baby. I was given a rota of who to call covering a two week period. I knew all four and they were all fine, bur I was lucky that on the day it was one of my two favourites.

110APiccadilly · 07/10/2020 08:03

I was interested enough to ask my midwife how often this happened - she said not very often, just because if one of "her" mums is in labour she won't necessarily be on shift and available.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 07/10/2020 08:07

I actually really disagree with the system. You meet the community midwife and build up a relationship with her, but then you go into hospital to have the baby and you know it will be a stranger. I know midwifes can’t be on shift the whole time so you’d never be guaranteed to get her, but at least there’d be a chance. Also, surely the community midwifes must miss attending actual births? There aren’t that many home births.

elfran · 07/10/2020 08:34

I'm hoping mine will. I'm on a team which follows a caseload care model and am considering a home birth, in which case my midwife (the only one I've seen so far, minus scan appointments at the hospital) would do my antenatal care, birth, and postnatal care. If I don't follow through with the home birth, she'll still do everything leading up to and afterwards.

Obviously, there is still a good chance she won't be on shift when I go into labour!

MrsR87 · 07/10/2020 08:53

Not given birth yet but I know already that the midwife I’ve been seeing for all my antenatal appointments won’t be there at the birth as there are different teams of midwifes at my hospital. One that does antenatal and home visits and the other does the actual births.

HappyPotato · 07/10/2020 08:59

Yes! It was complete chance that she was on call for the birth centre when I went into labour. I'm sure I really wouldn't have minded who it was at that point but it was really lovely that it was her!

annlee3817 · 07/10/2020 09:00

I had lots of different midwives during my pregnancy as they kept leaving, even through labour you get shift changes if labouring at the hospital. My friend went through three shift changes through her labour and the midwife who delivered my DD did so right at the end of her shift so I had a different one for the placenta delivery, all were absolutely amazing though and I wouldn't change anything

Frazzled13 · 07/10/2020 09:15

The midwife I saw throughout was one of the midwives who was there at my home birth. I was only transferred to the HB team at 36 weeks and the midwife I’d seen wasn’t actually normally in that team but she requested to be called for mine as I think she was looking to do more home births.

sarahc336 · 07/10/2020 09:40

No community midwives don't work on delivery suites xx

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