Scared of birth

[AlviesMam]

I'm 36 weeks and getting scared now.
I gave birth last year at 22 weeks due to complications and I remember how it felt then.
Contractions I managed as best as I could but the feeling I remember the most is the pressure when baby moved into the birth canal I felt out of control... this time I'm going to have my full term baby's pressure and I'm so scared of that feeling. I'm scared of anything going wrong. I then keep thinking what if she doesn't cry or breath straight away then worrying about a retained placenta etc etc... i could go on. I'm so stupid and I know you can't plan this but it's just the unknown. I am still very excited but the worry seems to be taking over. I lay awake at night worrying.
Can anyone else relate?

It's not stupid. I had a miscarriage before my 3rd child and I was sure it wasn't going to happen. I went in telling my dh to choose the baby over me if it came to it, I was sure we both wouldn't come out of it. You've come so far and will honestly be fine and then you'll have a little boy or girl. Just concentrate on remembering the next part, holding your little baby

Yes I can relate :(
I'm 38 weeks, my DD is 4. In the grand scheme of things her birth was ok, I was induced and she was on the larger side, but I had an epidural so i dont remember feeling much. Part of me just wants it over with asap.. I get so paranoid too, I cant help but think of the worst scenario.
I had some help for my anxiety recently, try and think, is this a helpful thought? It's hard I know, but if you really think about your thoughts as being helpful and unhelpful you can start to break it down a bit. If it's a helpful thought, its normally means you can do something to fix the problem you are thinking about, unhelpful is just a hypothetical thought you dont have a fix or an answer for. Yes bad things can happen, but some things are out of our control. Try to get control of the things that you can, for instance making sure you are 100% ready to go, bags and you are comfortable getting to where you need to be.
Not long to wait now, I dont think there is a magic spell that's going to make you feel better. But try to think about the bad thoughts as just thoughts, its probably not going to happen.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything runs smoothly xx

I remember you and your story and understand why you would feel the way you do.
Try not to panic. It's easy to say but honestly the more panicked you are and stressed you are is not going to help you or the baby and it will make things feel 10x worse.
You got this. Everyone's birth is most of the times out of their control. Some get the births they hoped for some don't but that's okay. Nothing is set in stone x

I reeeeeeeeeally recommend the Positive Birth Company’s digital pack. It’s their online course of videos, and costs £39.

It will help you understand so many of the factors around what your body is doing before during and after labour, and when you understand, you will trust your body and be less afraid.

Your body is incredible, it’s honestly the coolest thing, I have loved learning about it

I did hypnobirthing for my last birth (loved it, swear by it) but have to say this course has taught me even more, and I’m so glad I spent that £39!! Xx

P.s not on commission for them - wish I was

I also came on here to recommend looking into hypnobirthing. I haven’t given birth yet but it’s already making me feel a bit calmer about things.