Guilt during pregnancy

[chelshodds]

Hi all. I am curious if anybody else has experienced guilt during their second pregnancy. My son is 17months old and I am 15weeks pregnant. I have absolutely zero energy and I try my absolute best to give him the attention he needs but I am so exhausted constantly. Even when dad is home I feel like I still need to pick up the slack. He's such a loving little toddler but I find myself relying on cbeebies when I need to rest.

My DD is 9, it’s been me and her for years and now I’m bringing another person into her life and she has to share me, I’m feeling enormous guilt. I want to try and spend time with her while it’s just her but I’m too exhausted after work.

I am glad in one sense that he is young and he won't know any different, but also if he was older he might understand why mummy is so tired.

Congrats on your pregnancy.

I remember feeling guilty when I had my DD. My son was 3 at the time. I couldn’t imagine anyone else but him, he was my world (even though we planned a 2nd). Honestly though when baby is born you realise you haven’t taken anything away from them, they gain so much and you feel the same about both. My two adore each other and I couldn’t have imagined lockdown without the two of them together playing. They are currently busy playing together in their rooms!

Thank you. I am excited for him to have a sibling but I am guilty that right now while pregnant I can't be the mother I wanted to be due to sickness and exhaustion :( I don't want him to fall behind or feel restless because I am too tired to play with him.

100% am the same as you! I'm 25 weeks pregnant and have a 19 month old daughter, some days are just harder than others! By afternoon I find myself on the sofa with peppa pig on 🤦‍♀️ feel so bad but its really needed, we still have days out and go see my parents but days at home always end the same- and I live for nap time! 😂

Oh thank god. I feel like the world's worse parent but I forgot how knackering being pregnant was. And now I have a toddler to chase after. Definitely looking forward to this one coming out already

Oh yeah - in some ways the pandemic has been a blessing for me as my DH is WFH so can help out at times when I've been too ill or tired and with not much on in terms of groups and classes, we've probably spent more time at home so it doesn't really matter if I'm wearing leggings and a top that doesn't cover my sizeable belly!