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Are you going to pubs/restaurants?

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MimiDaisy11 · 04/10/2020 22:46

So according to government guidance, pregnant women are a "clinically vulnerable group" but the guidance doesn't put any further restrictions other than advice to keep social interactions low. You can still go to restaurants and pubs (obviously not meaning to drink alcohol) etc.

I am supposed to meet a friend in a pub tomorrow. I'd arranged it before I knew I was pregnant. I'm thinking of cancelling it and just stopping going into places like pubs and cafes. Am I being over the top?

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Minkies13 · 04/10/2020 22:55

I'm almost 36 weeks and I've been going about my life as normal, I'm just being more cautious. But yes, I'm still meeting friends, going to the pub, restaurants etc

SassyPants87 · 04/10/2020 22:57

I'm 38 weeks and have still being going to the pub. Will stop going now as me and hubby are isolating now that we've only got two weeks left. I guess it depends on you. If you feel uncomfortable and it's going to stress you out then don't go and maybe meet up for a walk in the park or something instead

I personally found it perfectly fine but obviously I was careful, sanitising at all times and also making sure the pub staff wore PPE too as I'd recently been to a restaurant where staff didn't wear PPE and tables weren't socially distanced!

Disappointedkoala · 04/10/2020 23:11

Yes, still going. Went to the pub today for lunch. 32 weeks, just taking the recommended precautions - lots of hand washing, wearing a mask, keeping my distance from others.

AnimalCrossingHere · 04/10/2020 23:17

I've been going to the pub and think it's been good from a mental health perspective.

I'm 40 weeks and there are zero options to meet up for baby groups, new mum friends in my area at the moment.

If you get lonely before baby comes it's only likely to get worse when the baby arrives.

Bernardstolemywatch · 04/10/2020 23:22

33 weeks for me and carrying on as usual.
I also work in a job where I can’t social distance and am in close proximity to many people all day.

jazzibelle · 04/10/2020 23:30

@MimiDaisy11 do whatever you're most comfortable with. Personally, we haven't gone out to any restaurants at all since before lockdown. I'm just not comfortable with it and the lack of masks is worrying for me.

I feel PG right before lockdown last time, got really sick (think it was just a bad cold, not Covid) and ended up MC at 6 weeks. I'm sure it's all unrelated, but this time around I'm taking no chances.

Oneandabean · 04/10/2020 23:54

My partner runs a pub and we are currently living above it so I do t have a lot of choice. The use of masks and table service only is helpful though

Viletta · 05/10/2020 02:58

I haven't been since March

supersonicginandtonic · 05/10/2020 04:23

I'm working in a face to face role with people with substance misuse issues. I'm breathalysing and urine screening on a daily basis. Pubs and restaurants are fine to me, especially if we're allowed to work as normal.
also according to the NHS, pregnant women are at moderate risk not clinically vulnerable. They only fall into that category with certain additional health needs.

BeMorePacific · 05/10/2020 07:06

I have a babysitter on Thursday and will be going out for dinner with my husband. I’ll be 36+2 and can’t wait.
Pregnancy can be a very tough time. My advice is that you take precautions. But live your life as much as possible xx

BS9790 · 05/10/2020 08:08

Im 36 weeks and haven't been to pubs/restaurants since before lockdown, or supermarkets.
Done minimal trips to shops for baby items, on quieter days/times... If there's been a que/been busy we haven't gone in.

I've had previous MC so anxious anyway, but personally wouldn't risk my health or the babies just for the sake of a pub lunch!

People would say I'm being rediculous but it's personal choice 🤷‍♀️ and that's the choice ive made 😊

SandysMam · 05/10/2020 08:11

I think it really depends on where you live too. The north south divide is huge in terms of numbers. Devon definitely, Bolton, not so much!

Never0000 · 05/10/2020 08:15

I wouldn't go to the pub or restaurant. I can easily meet friends outdoors, and I'd never see a fancy meal as more important than knowing I've done what I can to protect my and my baby's health.

Never0000 · 05/10/2020 08:19

Sorry this wasn't meant to come across as judgey and preachy! It's just my own personal take on evaluating the risks x

Vicalam · 05/10/2020 08:25

I haven't been going out, met friends a couple of times for a walk but that's about it. I'm 21 weeks now and it wont be forever so a few months not going out is no big deal in the grand scheme of things. But like others have said do what you're comfortable with. My partner really isn't comfortable with it all so we're just playing it safe.

peachypetite · 05/10/2020 08:33

I’m 32 weeks and hibernating now. My main issue is how often I need the toilet and I don’t want to use public ones. My friends have been great and have been coming to visit me and we’ve just had a good catch up at mine with nice food and cake. For me it’s about risk at this stage and not worth it as the numbers are definitely not going in the right direction. My husband will have a temperature scan on the way in when it’s time to have the baby so he’s also being really careful.

Stef92 · 05/10/2020 08:44

I've not been to a restaurant since August but my area is on local lockdown so it would just be me and my husband if we went out anyway. Just make your own risk assessment with hand washing, masks and distancing. I'd love to be able to go for lunch with my mam but we'd get a fine, she can't even come to my back garden.

MagpieSong · 05/10/2020 08:45

I’m not. I can easily meet people outside and there’s no point me going to a pub for an orange juice really. Obviously pregnant women have lowered immune systems so their body doesn’t reject the foetus, so we’re more likely to catch everything catchable. I think maybe my own health history and (unrelated to mine) my sons health history has made me more cautious in avoiding things, I’ve had long term health issues, fatigue and so on as well as been in ITU and had a very poorly child, so I’m happy to be more careful and be more likely to avoid those things than not. Then again, I’m not a big restaurant fan, so much less bothered than someone who adored that way so socialising. I do love to pop for a coffee somewhere, but not during covid.

MichelleOR84 · 05/10/2020 09:21

I’m 34 weeks and going out much less but still going out . It depends on how comfortable you are going out . You definitely don’t need to shield though !

loobyloo1234 · 05/10/2020 09:35

Im 17 weeks and have been out and about as normal. A few restaurants - probably once every fortnight. I couldnt stay in, my MH would go loopy

edgeware · 05/10/2020 09:43

36 weeks, going about as normal. I am healthy and low risk in my pregnancy. To be honest I have a toddler as well and I’m not going to lock him in the house because I might catch a virus. He’s at nursery anyway so we could catch it from there. Many pregnant women who are working or have other children don’t have the option to be super careful. Plus, I know how long it takes before you can have a nice relaxing dinner with a friend again so I’d rather have a few now before I’m stuck under a clingy baby again for six months.

Oreoreo · 05/10/2020 10:11

I’m 38 weeks and I have been going out the odd time to a cafe or restaurant to meet with family members. As other posters have said, I’ve just been as careful as I can be and sanitising often. We’ve also been choosing local places to attend when we’ve been going out as they feel more comfortable and less busy than if we were to go into the city.

It’s really a personal choice, I don’t think it would be over the top if you’d prefer to stay at home and zoom/Skype people or meet in an open place like a park. Just whatever makes you feel most comfortable. I’ll probably not be venturing out again now but that’s only because my legs and back become increasingly uncomfortable throughout the day.

positivedreams · 05/10/2020 10:39

I'm 36 weeks and until I hit 38 I would happily go, can only go with my family though as here in wales you can't meet anyone outside your own household 😣 so can't even meet my parents for a lunch etc can only meet outside. Which is hard when it's been torrential rain every day 👎🏼

DiabeticFirstBaby · 05/10/2020 11:41

I'm in the double vulnerable group being preg and diabetic and was told i should really shield and be definitely working from home. It's going to be a long 7 more months if I just stay at home and pretty miserable too so just picking where i go. I still need to have a life! I probably wouldn't go to a bar but have still been going out for meals and just ensuring i've got my mask, hand gel and keeping away from people. This situation isn't going to go away anytime soon and i can't just sit at home waiting for the baby to be born!

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