20 Week Scan - Horrified

[Emmmie]

Just that really. My 12 week ultrasound was perfect...everything was measuring well and the baby is deemed low risk. My nifty test has also come back low risk in everything that was tested.
Could the normal 12 week scan along with the low risk Nifty test be a good indicator that my 20 week scan should also be okay? I appreciate that no one can know for sure; I guess I am just grasping at straws here, looking for some hope. Not doing so well at the moment.

Thank you in advance!

Horrified at what?
What happened?

Did you miss a bit of your OP? It doesn’t fit with the title. What happened?

Are you saying you're worried about the upcoming 20 week scan. If so I was nervous because it's always possible something gets picked up but a lot more likely everything will be fine.

What are you horrified about op?
Did some of your post get wiped off? There’s a big chunk of information missing.

I am sorry for not being clear in my original post...Absolutely nothing bad has happened. However, I am horrified of the 20 week scan because I am afraid that they will find something wrong with the baby this time, despite everything being okay so far.
I am not one of those lucky women who look forward to the scans. They stress me out so much.

@Emmmie am I right in saying you havent yet had a 20 week scan?

If you havent - it's rare for them to find any problems. Your bloods results probably make it less likely too. Remember they're looking at many many things, some of which arent even a super big deal but it's useful for them to know prior to baba being born.

Also useful to know that lots of 20 week scans have to be done twice (around 15%) and that doesnt necessarily means something is wrong, it's usually just that baby was in the wrong position to check something.

If I've read wrong and you HAVE had the scan already, tell us a bit more about what has happened.

Do you mean terrified?

I think you mean terrified.

@Emmmie thank you for making it clear. Remind yourself that it is only a TINY number of people who will have something badly wrong, then a also v small number of people who will have something slightly wrong (which is great they found it cause they can treat it). Loads of people just get 30 mins of looking around then "looks good, heres a picture!"

Are you going to find out if it is a boy/girl?

TheDaydreamBelievers you are absolutely right, I did not have the 20 week scan yet. It will happen in a week or so. I know the baby will be bigger, so I am worried they will find something wrong this time they did were not able to see before.
I am being anxious/hormonal I guess.

Sorry yes, terrified. English is not my first language.

We are having a little girl (according to the NIPT test results) 🙂

If you have had a NIPT then they have already screened for the worst news you could get (the top conditions incompatible with life) which makes it even less likely you'll get a really bad outcome at the scan

I hope you can feel more relaxed after the scan and enjoy expecting your little girl!

Pregnancy can be really worrying, especially when scans are coming up. There are always risks, even if they’re small ones.

But I think it’s so important to try and find a way to manage your anxiety and find the positive, because there’s always something to worry about. That’s just as true after the baby arrives as well.

Thank you both. I really do not have any real reason to be worried this time.
However, my previous pregnancy went from "Everything is fine" to "Your baby is unwell. Would you like an abortion in the 32nd week of pregnancy?" I think I am still traumatised by that experience.

Ok, I understand where your anxiety is coming from now, that must have been awful .

All you can do is take it one day at a time. Very best of luck to you op.

With you last update then it's totally understandable that you're nervous. It's much much more likely that everything will be fine than something is found.

Fightthebear thank you! It was horrible and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I had the baby and everything turned out great, but I still remember the fear we went through.

Thank you Boringnamechanging⚘ I know you are right.

I certainly understand the fear.
I hope it goes well for you x.

Once you've had a bad experience with scans it is very difficult to relax. I hope you have a lovely calm scan and that they make you feel relaxed whilst doing it. x

Thank you both! I hope so too.

It might help to have someone with you at the scan to comfort you. Many trusts are allowing this now. Even if your hospital does not accept partners at scans normally, you have two extra needs so they should allow it:

English is not your first language so a partner could help you translate and understand medical information,

And you have had a previous traumatic experience at the 20 week scan.

Call up or write to ask them about this. Your midwife or GP should be able to help advocate for you.

And very best wishes, it sounds as if all the signs point to a healthy pregnancy and a calm and reassuring scan

Thank you for your kind post and for taking the time to answer me 23TheGoldenApplesOfTheSun. I may ask the hospital to allow my husband to be present during the scan; it helps that he is the calm and reasonable one. I've had a few scans so far, but I was always by myself. I am sure having him there would help. I had no idea this was an option🤷🏻‍♀️