Hi everyone,
I'm currently 23 weeks pregnant and loving every minute of it! The only downside is my partner. We weren't exactly on the best of terms when we found out about the pregnancy and had only just decided to give the relationship another go...contraception failed (his refusal to wear a condom and my pill deciding not to work). I regret nothing, at first I was so apprehensive about continuing the pregnancy but after a few days to let the idea settle I knew I could do it, with or without him. 4 weeks later he decided he wanted to be a part of the journey and since then we've got a house and things have been very steady. Until now. I am constantly met with the "I wish we could go back in time" argument and "I feel like you planned this" obviously not the case at all as I was due to start a new uni course/job so wouldn't sabotage him or myself this way 🙄 now it's a daily argument of how he isn't sure he's ready to be a dad and he's very distant with the baby (no chatting to the bump/ helping pick out clothes). In fact, the only time he's ever truly lovely with me is when he is trying to have sex 
which at this point in time is the last thing on my mind. I'm at my whits end, I don't know if I even want to be with him. I know I'd be able to do this alone even if it would be harder, my family is so so supportive. It just feels as if the love has gone and all he is there for is so people can't accuse him of being a deadbeat dad. Which I have assured him many times I would never call him. I just want us to both be happy. Together or apart. I just don't know what to do with myself, it's starting to take a toll on me mentally but no matter how much I try to talk to him he doesn't help at all 
the only thing he cares about at the minute is his cannabis consumption and the fact he will "lose freedom"! Any advice? Sorry for the rant