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Backofthenewt · 01/10/2020 20:46

Only keep the baby if you know you'll be ok being a single parent. If you want the keep the baby then keep it.

From an alternative perspective, I had an abortion and have never regretted it. It was absolutely the right thing in the circumstances.

ZooKeeper19 · 01/10/2020 20:49

@Brii94 Not an easy decision, no matter what you do. I agree, that relationship is over regardless.

If you can financially support yourself and the baby, I'd do it. If you can't, make sure you yourself have done the calculations and it just does not work. It's unbelievably stressful to have a baby and to have a baby with no money, that's hell. I know. I have been there. It's depressing and you feel like you are letting your baby down.

So please do not feel pressured either way, and just do what actually can be done. But do it without this boy, he needs to go get some balls and that's not something you need to suffer through.

CatSmith · 01/10/2020 21:02

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Bl0ndi3 · 01/10/2020 21:07

OP please ignore any horrible judgmental comments from small minded and nasty people.

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Whatcan · 01/10/2020 21:37

oh dear OP , this sounds really tough. there are various places for support in making your decision . one is
www.crosswaypregnancy.org.uk
who support women whatever way they decide to go.
I agree with others above that I'd think I wouldn't want to be in the relationship with this controlling man though.
sending you a virtual handhold xx

Whatcan · 01/10/2020 21:37

oh dear OP , this sounds really tough. there are various places for support in making your decision . one is
www.crosswaypregnancy.org.uk
who support women whatever way they decide to go.
I agree with others above that I'd think I wouldn't want to be in the relationship with this controlling man though.
sending you a virtual handhold xx

BuggerBognor · 01/10/2020 21:46

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Brii94 · 02/10/2020 10:32

Thankyou it really helps hearing other experiances. Ive got a few more days to decide. Just really hard i feel guilty becuase it wasnt planned and he doesnt want to be in this situation. I really dont want to loose him its the first time ive ever felt happy and comfortable in a relationship. But as people have said on here, i could end up resenting him anyway its a loose loose situation. I just cant see myself taking them pills x

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Brii94 · 02/10/2020 10:36

I didnt see the horrible comments luckily

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FourPlasticRings · 02/10/2020 10:42

With relationships, I tend to take the attitude that if it's right, it'll work. If he's the one for you, the relationship will work even if you keep the baby. If he's not the one for you, it won't work even if you abort. Best bet is definitely to take him out of the equation and focus on whether you want the baby or not. You can hope he'll stay but should expect him not to.

lilly02 · 02/10/2020 10:57

@Brii94

Just looking for some advice. Im currently 25 years old and 6 weeks pregnant (accidental) ive only known my boyfriend 6 months and he doesnt want this baby. I dont feel like as a couple we are ready and i know he would hate me if i kept it. At first i told him i wanted to keep the baby but now ive told him i will look into an abortion as its tearing us apart and we are both very stressed. I had an abortion 3 years ago and my mental health was bad after i felt so guilty even thou looking back i now dont regret it. I have no family around me and i have little support. I work full time but currently rent 1 room where i live. Im trying to work out what to do i want to take time and not make the wrong decision but the longer im leaving it the more its messing my head up knowing this baby is still growing inside me. Really dont know what to do. I feel i want to keep this baby but he will resent me forever or leave. Has anyone else had this and their partner came to accept it? Hes adimant im stupid for thinking it could work. I feel i have no other choice

I'm so sorry your going through this. Just do what's best for you. Have you got friends around you who could support you? X

PurpleWave · 02/10/2020 11:35

I agree with the others saying that this relationship is most likely over, due to resentment one way or the other, so take him out of the equation.

Would you keep the baby knowing that you'll be doing it on your own? You're the only one that gets to make the final decision.

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Brii94 · 03/10/2020 09:32

Have any mums split up with there partner over wanting to keep their baby? Did they ever come round or whats your advice /experience about doing it on your own?

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