Gracebridiiiie94

[Brii94]

Just looking for some advice. Im currently 6 weeks pregnant (accidental) ive only known my boyfriend 6 months and he doesnt want this baby. I dont feel like as a couple we are ready and i know he would hate me if i kept it. At first i told him i wanted to keep the baby but now ive told him i will look into an abortion as its tearing us apart and we are both very stressed. I had an abortion 3 years ago and my mental health was bad after i felt so guilty even thou looking back i now dont regret it. I have no family around me and i have little support. I work full time but currently rent 1 room where i live. Im trying to work out what to do i want to take time and not make the wrong decision but the longer im leaving it the more its messing my head up knowing this baby is still growing inside me. Really dont know what to do.

Hi @Brii94

I'm so sorry this has happened, I don't have any advice but I want you to know that you're not alone and offer a handhold. You don't say how old you are but you sound quite young.
I know you don't have family and only little support but is there anyone you can talk to in real life?

Sorry you're going through this @Brii94 please put your feelings first and don't let what your boyfriend wants sway you at all. This is your decision to make and either way is a difficult journey so I really sympathise with you

It’s tough being a woman and having to shoulder the burden of contraception, and then accidental pregnancy. I feel for you

It’s totally your decision. It sounds like this might be a difficult time to bring a baby into the world for you; if you’re young, you will probably find there are more opportunities in later life to have a child, when you’re more ready to be a parent.

Hugs x

I went through a situation where I didn't know if I wanted to keep the baby. My partner of 2.5 years was supportive but once I sat in the apportion clinic I knew I had made the wrong decision. Someone said to me to go with what feels 'most' right and that really made me realise that I wanted this baby. If you're only having an n abortion because you're worried about your relationship falling apart, remember to put yourself first.

Hello i am 25 years old so wouldnt say i was too young just feel so stuck and rusbbish atm! Thankyou for your advice x

Just feels like picking between the first ever relationship i feel happy in and him hating me or my baby x

Sorry to hear you've got this decision to make. I think you need to go with what you want, if you choose to have the baby would you be happy going it alone? I think that if you have an abortion for the sake of your relationship when you really want to keep the baby then the relationship could fall apart anyway.

Had anyone had the same sort of experience where their boyfriend eventually came around?

Has anyone had an experience where their boyfriend didnt want their unborn baby? I totally understand where he is coming from and we havent known eachother long. But im devostated. Will he ever come round? I need to make a decision as soon as possible

I’m sorry but I don’t think he will come round. If he loves you then he would not be treating you this way.