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Can I do it on my own?

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IrisTs · 29/09/2020 17:52

I have just found out that I am pregnant. This will be my second child ( 1st one is 3years old). My partner told me he doesnt want it ( he didn't want the first one either and pushed for abortion). He now says he doesnt want one as we are in a bad place in our relationship and again forcing me to abort or we are done. The idiot thinks that if I removed the pregnancy that we would continue our relationship like nothing happened. To me this is the end after years together and him not committing etc. I have ended up with a man child.

How the hell am I going to cope on my own though especially financially as i have just been moved to part time role ? I also have pets to provide for. Is this possible to provide for 2 kids and rent working part time only ? I am really stressed and upset. What should be amazing news and celebration now making me think whether I should abort it and dump this idiot?

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lucymagoo · 29/09/2020 18:10

Good for you realising this man is an idiot. He certainly sounds like one to me.
You will absolutely be fine on your own. Your partner is entitled to send you money to look after his children also don't forget. Do you have family or friends who can help you?

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IrisTs · 29/09/2020 19:24

My whole family lives in another country and friends are quite far too unfortunately. I am thinking whether the best course of action will to abort and deal with becoming a single mother of one first.

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Oneandabean · 29/09/2020 19:46

You can do it. Don’t get me wrong it’ll be hard but you will adapt. The biggest question you need to ask yourself is will you regret it if you have an abortion?

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IrisTs · 29/09/2020 20:18

I dont know... I'm very torn but also dont want to risk jeopardising my existing childs life. I'd rather we didnt starve. If we didnt have covid and this huge uncertainty it would be a different story but with my job already reduced to part time I worry I will loose it altogether.

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EllieJai44 · 29/09/2020 21:02

Are you in the UK? Because as a single parent and part time working you'd be entitled to universal credit which can help you out loads!

kim160790 · 29/09/2020 21:22

Like previous poster if in uk you will get universal credit they also pay your full rent as well and you can get council tax reduction. I'm still with my partner (for now anyways) and we have our rent paid although we both work x

taraRoo · 29/09/2020 21:27

Yes. You can. Your idiot partner will also have to pay child support for both kids. Any man who pushes a woman to abort against her will is a waste of space. Better off without him.

lilsquish · 29/09/2020 21:51

do you have any option to move to where your family are?

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