Talk to me about the 2 year age gap!

[Pollypockett23]

Has anyone got a 2 year age gap between their babies?

What's it like?!

Oh my eldest dropped his nap just as baby arrived! He was ready to drop it but earlier but I needed to rest myself at the end of the pregnancy 😅

@stoptheworldiwant2getoff

I've just made sure mine is potty trained at 2 for when his brother comes in 4 weeks time. So i know it's not going to be easy but that's one thing I don't have to worry about. I can't wait tho, same age difference as me and my sister and we are so close

How did that go?!

I have 2 years and 10 days between my two.

The pros are definitely that we are nearing the end of the nappy years and in another year or so my youngest will be much easier. Also for the first 6 months or so they napped at the same time.

The cons for us were;

2 in childcare at once is expensive so I gave up work.

Potty training with a baby was hard. My son wasn't ready for training at 2, he was almost 3 before he was ready. A lot of people have a dream of potty training 1 before 2 arrives... in my experience it doesn't work and you have 2 in nappies at once.

My son wasn't old enough to understand or deal with getting a sibling. I really think his selective mutism is related to having several huge changes happen at once when he was 2. He moved rooms at nursery, got a new bedroom, had his birthday and got a sister pretty much all at once. He felt abandoned being left at nursery while I went home with the baby.

On balance, if we didn't have the fertility and age issues we had, I think I'd have aimed for a 3 rather than 2 year difference

2.5 years between mine and it was brutal for the first, oooh, 3 years? Seriously, the early days of parenting them both is a blur.

As individual babies they were both easy but the mental load of 2 kids + working full time + multiple house moves was excruciating until DS2 was about 3 years old.

My friend is about to have her 4th boy after a 6 year age gap and I'd say she's looking forward to it the most because the emotional and physical requirements for a newborn and 6 year old (and older), are completely different.

The needs and understanding of a toddler and newborn really aren't all that different, hence the head fuck of trying to juggle them both.

Mine are 9&6 now and a newborn would be a breeze given that I can converse with the kids properly and still be engaged in what they've got going on.

It's a perfect gap so much so I done it 4times !
Dc now 13(just yesterday) 10,8 & 6

@WhoUsedMyName

It's a perfect gap so much so I done it 4times ! Dc now 13(just yesterday) 10,8 & 6

Oh that's great to know!!! Thank you! The rest of the comments are stressing me a little

Just under two years between mine and it's been hard work at times but wonderful. For me it's the prefer gap as they are at similar stages but my oldest (3) can do quite a lot for herself.

I'm currently expecting again with another two year gap : )

Perfect not prefer!

Mine are 6 and 8 now and I found the 2 year gap to be perfect. Sometimes I actually forget that they aren't the same age because DS is nearly as tall as DD now and is always trying to keep up with her. They have their arguments obviously, but on the whole are very loving towards each other and are best friends. There's never been any jealousy and DD was always very maternal towards DS.

@Teakind

Just under two years between mine and it's been hard work at times but wonderful. For me it's the prefer gap as they are at similar stages but my oldest (3) can do quite a lot for herself.

I'm currently expecting again with another two year gap : )

Congratulations!!

@kateybeth79

Mine are 6 and 8 now and I found the 2 year gap to be perfect. Sometimes I actually forget that they aren't the same age because DS is nearly as tall as DD now and is always trying to keep up with her. They have their arguments obviously, but on the whole are very loving towards each other and are best friends. There's never been any jealousy and DD was always very maternal towards DS.

This is excellent to hear. How was the first year for you