How did your partner react?

[LoveYouHoneybear]

Just that- how did your partner react when they found out you were pregnant? My DH (nearly 40 years old!) is still terrified and I'm nearly 11 weeks. We always talked about having kids one day but this was a huge surprise (we were not TTC). Is his reaction normal?! He's scaring me! Thanks a lot.

"right, well, it's early days"
Both times. With a slightly shocked look. Both times he's been in the middle of making a meal so perhaps that much news on an empty stomach is a bad idea.

First pregnancy- “Shit! Well, we’re in this together no matter what happens.’

DD1 was very much not planned and we hadn’t been together long. His reaction cemented in my mind that he was the one for me though.

Second pregnancy- He leapt at me and hugged me.

DD2 was very much planned and we had been TTC for over a year with a chemical pregnancy during that time.

He is a completely devoted Dad to both of our daughters.

@LoveYouHoneybear you are absolutely not alone!
I’m sorry that you are going through the same thing. Fingers crossed they shape up very soon x

@JeanieInABottle

Mine is not happy! We’ve been together a long time and always talked about children in the future. We were planning (roughly, if possible) for spring 2022 - except surprise ..spring 2021 it will be. Apparently I’ve ‘trapped’ him !

Very early days but hopefully he calms down and gets excited !

@JeanieInABottle, are you not alarmed that someone who is presumably supposed to love you and with whom you were planning to conceive in the near future has automatically reached for a misogynistic stereotype after a contraception failure which is apparently your fault?

Mine left at 11 weeks and said the baby was a mistake he'll have to live with

"OK - well that's good news isn't it?" when we found out at 3+3. We were TTC for 3+ years then had 2 MC (one after seeing heartbeat) 4 months apart. We're 13 weeks now and he is so much more excited than me - I'm still expecting something to go wrong. I've never seen a smile so big as when I showed him the 12wk scan photo. I feel really lucky to have him and his positivity to carry me through.

Very much so but I’m hopeful it’s just a shock and he will come round!
I wouldn’t be with him if I ever thought he wasn’t capable of being a loving partner and Daddy.

Lifted me up and twirled me around. Delighted but a little surprised it happened so quickly after the wedding. Grinned like an idiot for days. Told strangers in supermarkets. Came home with baby clothes every time he went away for work. Brought me me fresh fruit salad and ginger nuts in bed every morning. Cleaned the lavatories a lot.
That was the first....
Next time “Can you pick up some athletes foot powder when you go to town, please?”

"Oh".

We've had many losses before this one so both couldn't get enthusiastic about a positive pregnancy test, or dating scan for that matter. At least we were on the same page.