Feel like a failure

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Hi all,

I'm feeling really shitty today. I'm 13 weeks pregnant and have found the first trimester incredibly tough: constant severe nausea and now total exhaustion, cannot go out for a walk, cannot stay awake beyond 8pm etc. I still can't enjoy my old favourite foods, I can't enjoy a cup or tea or coffee because they still taste bad. I feel so fed up and am crying all the time, and when I've tried to talk to friends they've said things like "yes it's tough but at least you don't have other kids to look after". I feel like a failure for finding this so difficult and yet others think I should look on the bright side and feel grateful. I am grateful to be pregnant but can't I say it is tough??

Of course you can feel that way. I felt how you did a week ago and surprisingly feel better this week at 14 weeks. Its awful when the first trimester just throws so much at you - and some get it worse than others. Fingers crossed your symptoms improve soon for you x

It is shit. I have 4 children and the first trimester was so so hard with all of them. Just be as selfish as you can-early nights lie ins, long baths, eat what you feel like and just accept that for now this is just how it is.
You will feel better it's just a phase but I completely completely understand and remember how horrible it is.
Don't feel bad loads of us feel like this it's just hard to understand how rough it is until you're actually going through it.
Sending huge hugs and and
That's a nice biscuit by the way not a snarky one

🤗 No need to feel like a failure.
Until about week 16/17 I was wondering what I'd done and if I'd made a huge mistake and how I'd make it through the rest, or if I could. I think my partner felt the same, I was basically just a sleeping, crying whingebag 🤣
My dogs are used to walking 3+ miles a day but for 3 months that rarely happened, I ate margarita pizza for breakfast, dinner and tea because it was all that I could stomach with the nausea so I gained 1.5 stone, I felt HORRID in myself and genuinely hated pregnancy and vowed never to do it again and was so worried about how much weight id gain.
Now at 35 weeks I couldn't feel more different. I managed to get my weight gain in to check since my nausea/smell aversions went and am only 2stone up overall so have only gained half a stone since the awful phase. I can walk 5/6 miles a day (ok, I may have to do a few wild wees and a nap when I get home but that's fine).
My experience is that first trimester is the worst, but you will come out the other end.
Hopefully you will be the same and start to feel better soon.
Just take it easy while you need to and don't beat yourself up about it, it won't be forever. Your body is adjusting to a whole new job of building a baby and you're certainly not alone

Thank you all for being so kind - reading your responses has really helped me. I hope this exhaustion passes soon and I start feeling better. Hope all you all have a nice weekend..

You are growing a baby. It's the most amazing thing a human being can do. But it can make you feel like utter shite. On top of that you have this feeling of guilt that you should feel excited, lucky, grateful but the shiteness trumps that. Be kind and sympathetic to yourself. No more talk of failure. It will get better I promise.

You're not a failure and of course you can moan or have a rant.

Hope you feel better soon.

If you can afford it you could get private acupuncture to fix all of those horrible symptoms. Around £50 a treatment.

It’s got a good track record for pregnancy related things, including conception.

Congrats, hope you are feeling much better soon.

With my first I felt like I'd been hit by a truck - I just went bed, car, work, car, bed until about week 18. It was exhausting so I completely sympathise.

There's always some dickhead who'll tell you that you should be grateful that you're not pregnant in a war zone or in a natural disaster.