13 weeks and I hate being pregnant!

[KoalaBear88]

It’s 3:23 and another sleepless night with restless legs. I just want to be done with this!!
From the moment I tested positive I lost the sense of myself! All day extreme nausea, vomiting, the smells, constipation, acid reflux, food aversions, insomnia, extreme exhaustion.... I had enough. I’m off sick of work two months ago now and I hate it. I’m working on my undergrad dissertation and I have baby brain... I cannot concentrate. I completely lost all control! I just hate being pregnant and hate being guilty of it!

Anybody here who feels the same?

Me! I’m 20 weeks pregnant and couldn’t of written this better myself, although the sickness and feeling shit most days have now passed. Im sick of waking up at 3am most nights and lying here for nearly 3 hours struggling to sleep knowing I have a toddler to get up for! I’m not excited in the slightest and feel guilty for it also. What I can say is if this is your first then it really is the greatest blessing when they arrive. Sending hugs

I hated being pregnant up until about 20 weeks... but being able to feel her moving about in there makes the heartburn and getting up a thousand times in the night to pee, so worth it ❤️.
For me, the first trimester was definitely the worse, so once the sickness (hopefully) subsided and you start to feel a bit more energetic... hopefully you will start to enjoy it a little more.

I’m sorry you are having a rough time though! There was many moments I said to myself, I am never going to be able to do this again!

When the sickness goes you will feel so much better, and when you start to feel baby move that will make your days happier. Its all worth it in the end x

Ditto. I feel better at 16w than I did at 13w. The GP also prescribed antihistamines that help with sleep. I've already been judged on here for "taking drugs when pregnant" but my sleep is so much better and I'm going with happy mum = happy baby.

Hey- I'm 29 weeks and felt like this for a long time. This is a massive life change and it does take some adjusting. I'd say once I got to about 23 weeks and I started developing a proper bump and feeling the baby move I started to accept what was happening and relax into it. Don't be too hard on yourself if you can't do the things you used to. Good luck x

I’m 35 weeks and still bloody hate it. Second trimester was a little bit better and I felt a little bit more like me, but now feel crap again in my third. Will think twice about doing this again!! Roll on due date

I said to my DH last night that I'm really sick of feeling this way. I haven't felt "well" for months.
I'm currently 13+3 and it is rough.

This is my third baby. My second pregnancy I was around 25 weeks when I just broke down and said I can't do this for another 15 weeks. Literally destroyed at the prospect of continuing to feel shit for many more months.

The mantra "this is temporary, this is temporary" is probably the only reason I wasn't sectioned to be honest.

So whilst I have no advice - it is worth it. You will have periods where you feel ok. And you just get through. You're not alone in feeling this way - I've never understood people who "love" being pregnant because there's literally nothing nice about it.

But getting your baby at the end is worth it.

Im with @zippityzip, i never quite understand the women who love being pregnant 😂 this is my 4th time and i literally warned everyone that im not good at being pregnant. The sickness, the tiredness, the SPD. The worrying. The peeing. The no sleeping. I genuinely love labour/birth cause it means the pregnant part is over and im gonna meet my baby... that said, there is no better feeling than meeting your baby which makes the whole 9 month process worth it ☺

I hated my first pregnancy the whole way through, I was so sick, my back gave up, I couldn't sleep. Took me 5 years to do it again and it's awful again but I know it will pass and you do forget. Hang on in there!

I feel the same, I spend most days in bed and feel constantly sick. I miss tea so much, and haven't had a full nights sleep for ages.

I'm holding out for the second trimester, last pregnancy I went on an active holiday at 20 weeks so I must have had some energy. Please let it come back!

I'm almost 12 weeks and I'm not loving it either so you're definitely not alone! Also suffering sleepless nights with restless arms and legs as well as constant peeing through the night. Sickness has finally subsided, praying it for the come back as it was awful. But the constant exhaustion due to not sleeping is crippling. Safe to say I'm hoping for a better second trimester!

praying it doesn't* come back that should be!

I feel the same, I am twelve weeks and I hate it 😭
I feel so rough everyday, I literally can't do anything. I hope it eases soon ❤️

3rd pregnancy, twins this time. Absolutely agree with so many of these posts, hate hate hate pregnancy. The person who said repeating 'this is temporary' is my kind of woman, because this is the only thing that legit stops me going completely round the bend and carried out in a straight jacket!

It's physical, it's emotional, it's phycological, it does you in so many ways, but my god, I find the people who hate pregnancy the most the people who enjoy the babies the most. We are so bloody happy not to be pregnant, to be in our own bodies again, free, that we find the baby part fantastic!

So take that positive from it, and to be honest pregnancy does suck, there is very few parts of it that are actually fun or hood right? The baby is the goal 🙏

40 weeks here and I hate being pregnant 🙋🏼‍♀️ Haven't even had a particularly difficult pregnancy (extreme morning sickness aside), I just hate it. So happy it'll be over very soon and dreading the day I have to do it again already!

@Phiphi123 yes 33 weeks here and striking off the days like a prison sentence currently!

Feel like I’ve found my people!
I’ve had HG throughout and just never feel well. I still don’t everything hurts and it makes it hard to be excited. Where is my glow? My lovely swishy hair? This is bullshit.

Oh and if one more person tells me how easy their pregnancy was or how much they enjoy being pregnant I will not be held responsible for my actions.

Rant over- thanks everyone

I hated being pregnant. At my antenatal class one of the get to know me things was what were you looking forward to most after giving birth. The others said "finding out if we have a boy or a girl" "does baby look like me or OH" "seeing what baby is like". I went with not being pregnant.

It has all gone away now baby is here, sure there are other challenges but I felt rotten all through pregnancy even when physical symptoms weren't too bad. Pregnancy is a means to an end and it will pass.

@Superscientist haha, yes that 'what are you looking forward to the most post baby question' where the first things that spring to my mind are always 'wine and botox'

Then I grapple for something much more 'acceptable' to say like 'bathing my baby for the first time' ect

I just came on Mumsnet to see if anyone else was feeling dreadful and thankfully just read all these posts.

I'm 8 weeks so still very early but gosh the nausea and fatigue. Plus the awful cravings for carbs making me bloated and feeling so full. I basically feel hungover all the time! Every night when I come to take the folic the nausea gets worse!

Fingers crossed this eases in trimester 2. Good luck everyone 🙏🤞

[quote ChampooPapi]@Superscientist haha, yes that 'what are you looking forward to the most post baby question' where the first things that spring to my mind are always 'wine and botox'

Then I grapple for something much more 'acceptable' to say like 'bathing my baby for the first time' ect[/quote]
Wine and Botox 🤣🤣🤣🙌🙌🙌

Ooh I’ve found my people!

Almost 14 weeks here and have felt like crap since we found out - I wouldn’t mind quite so much if I wasn’t promised that the first trimester is the worst and that after that it’s a breeze!

I want to glow and have lustrous hair instead I’ve lost weight (not necessarily a bad thing but I know I’m going to get moaned at during my next appointment) skin is crap and hair is dull because I can barely keep anything down!

@megexpat you too will get through to the end I promise and those dreams of being yourself again will all come true. And you'll have a beautiful baby to show for it, babies are great fun and so gorgeous and cute, they bare absolutely no relation to the things that live inside us while we are pregnant, sapping our energy, sucking the joy and colour from our lives, and rendering us essentially pupating fat exausted catapillas!

7 weeks, 3rd baby here & I'm miserable!