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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

This baby is kicking my ass

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VeraPink · 22/09/2020 07:54

28 weeks pregnant and I am feeling so low. I’ve been so lucky up until now; I had virtually no morning sickness and felt amazing through my second trimester. But now into the third and suddenly it has all come crashing down. I have SPD and terrible problems with heartburn. A couple of bad episodes of nighttime illness make me think I have gallstones. And the worst thing of all, I’ve just been diagnosed with gestational diabetes.

I feel like the whole pregnancy is suddenly crashing down around me and I still have a third of it to go! And worse than that, I feel so ashamed. I truly don’t know why because I would NEVER judge another woman for having GD, but when it comes to myself I feel like I have let my baby down and caused them harm through my bad decision. I keep thinking if only I had eaten less pasta or bread this wouldn’t have happened.

Sorry for moaning. I just feel so low and sad. I want to snap out of this and enjoy the last few weeks of pregnancy but I can’t stop crying.

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FairyAnn · 22/09/2020 07:57

SPD sucks! I've had it since my first trimester ☹️ do you have a support pillow you can put between your legs while you sleep? That's helped me a lot.

FairyAnn · 22/09/2020 07:59

And don't beat yourself up over the GD - my friend got that and she had one of the healthiest diets - it's just one of those things. You didn't do anything wrong ☺️

VeraPink · 22/09/2020 07:59

You poor thing - you’re heroic for dealing with it for so long! I have a pregnancy pillow but I haven’t been using it much because it doesn’t leave much room for my husband in the bed. He would happily move to the spare room if it helped me though so I will try that for a few nights to see if it eases it. Thank you Flowers

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 22/09/2020 08:01

SPD is hell, don’t think anyone understands unless they’ve been through it- mine kicked it badly around 25 weeks, it’s mildly eased since I went through 30 weeks.
As for GD that’s really more related to genetics/ also certain races are more susceptible. It wouldn’t even cross my mind it was a mother fault.
Hang in there OP! It’s an emotional time and physically very hard, don’t underestimate you are growing another human being. Flowers

VeraPink · 22/09/2020 08:35

Thank you for such kind words Flowers

The SPD really is miserable isn’t it? I had heard other women mention it before I was pregnant and never really thought that much about it but it affects everything now!

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Sanch1 · 22/09/2020 08:56

I've had SPD with this pregnancy since about 18 weeks, I'm now 25 weeks and cant bear the thought of being in pain for another 15 weeks! My DH is somewhat sympathetic but I dont think he really gets how bad it is. Started to get a bit of acid and heartburn this week to add to the misery but hey ho, not a lot we can do about it!

VeraPink · 22/09/2020 09:09

@Sanch1 I’m sorry you’re suffering Flowers these babies better be cute once they’re out to make up for this!

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passthemustard · 22/09/2020 10:23

I really feel for you. I had an easy first/second trimester now coming up to the third (26 weeks) and I have heartburn/acid reflux/kidney infection/the beginnings of spd/piles/alternate constipation and diarrhoea and I just feel miserable. Trying hard to stay positive, only another 3 months 😩😩

Metallicalover · 22/09/2020 12:02

Please have A look at the website gestationaldiabetes uk and join the Facebook group gestational diabetes mums uk. There's loads of support and recipes etc! Xx

VeraPink · 22/09/2020 14:08

Thank you, I will check it out!

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